Happy_B-Day_Hater

[Turkmenka_]

Actually I'm not the one.But I know someone who hates b-days,doesn't think they are important and knocks down the person for just mentioning its importance.He doesn't care about is it the b-day of his mother or wife or someone else.Does it mean he doesn't care about these persons at all? If after arguing on this topic he would say that he has stopped respecting closest person (to him right now),he doesn't care about their preferences and opinions.Does it sound a bit cruel to you? Or not cruel at all,and just right?

this message is directed to that person's attention( which probably he will ignore).But I want to find out here from male and female forumers what they think about it.

[mujreem]

Assalamu Alaikum
Hmmmde, slojniy vopros.
Voobsheto nujno obratit' vnimaniye na prichinu takogo otnosheniya k etomu samomu B-day. Navernyaka eto vizvano bolee ser'yeznimi prichinami, i bit' mojet etot chelovek ochen' principialen v etih voprosah. Do togo principialen chto ne mojet poyti ninakakiye ustupki radi etogo? Mojet je takoye bit', ya prav? V etih sluchayah ne nado sporit' a prosto "razvesit'" vashi principi i principi "H_B-day_hater"a i reshit' ch'i je principi namnogo vajnee. A to chto bilo skazano chto "vi poteryali vsyakogo uvajeniya" tak eto bit' mojet bilo skazano ot zlosti imenno v tot moment kogda H_B-day_hater pochuvstvoval chto vi ne uvajayete ili je ne pridayete znacheniya k ego principam?
Hotya konechno sovremennaya jizn' trebuyet bolee liberal'nogo otnosheniya k raznim kul'turam i obrazam jizni, i priderjivat'sya absolyutno ortodoksal'nih principov soputstvuyetsya razlichnimi protivorechiyami, no v dannom sluchaye ishodya iz vashego polojeniya sledovalo bi idti na neznachitel'niye ustupki. Kogda chego to priobretayesh cennogo, to obyazatel'no lishayeshsya drugogo, bit' mojet ochen' cennogo v tvoih glazah, no posudite sami, v obmen na banal'nuyu lyubeznost' i buketa cvetov vi priobretayete namnogo bol'shego. Hotya konechno jenshini po svoyey nature ochen' jadniye k vnimaniyu, i otsutstviye takovoy ih razochirovivayet v opredelennih momentah, no na samom dele chto vam bol'she nujno, Jeleznaya gora za kotoroy vi sebya chuvstvuyete absolyutno spokoynoy, ili je banal'niye lyubeznosti s buketom cvetov v B-day i valentinkami v S.V. day v obmen suyetami, intrigami i vechnimi podozreniyami togo je sovremennogo mira? :rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes: 8)

mujreem,
wa'assalam

P.S. hmmm, hotelos' koe chto dobavit', no dumayu bol'shego ne stoit skazat', udachi v jizni, i ne rugaytes', "bir kun janjal chiqqan ro'zg'ordan, qirq kun baraka qochar ekan!" :D







oooooooooooops, sovsem daje zabil, btw v noch' s 28 go na 29 iy Regaib Kandil s chem i pozdravlyayu vseh kto pridayet k etomu hot' malen'koye no znacheniye :D 8)

[Delta]

Actually I'm not the one.But I know someone who hates b-days,doesn't think they are important and knocks down the person for just mentioning its importance.He doesn't care about is it the b-day of his mother or wife or someone else.Does it mean he doesn't care about these persons at all? If after arguing on this topic he would say that he has stopped respecting closest person (to him right now),he doesn't care about their preferences and opinions.Does it sound a bit cruel to you? Or not cruel at all,and just right?

this message is directed to that person's attention( which probably he will ignore).But I want to find out here from male and female forumers what they think about it.

Before judging anyone about his behavior, may be you should find out what happened in the past. May be he had a bad experience or finds this day not that important from his own reasoning, instead he may congratulate his loved ones with all his heart if they succeed in their work/university or other events.
If that is how it is, I don't consider that person cruel at all.

- Even simple O.K. button has its controller behind it.

[Royal]

Before judging anyone about his behavior, may be you should find out what happened in the past. May be he had a bad experience or finds this day not that important from his own reasoning, instead he may congratulate his loved ones with all his heart if they succeed in their work/university or other events. If that is how it is, I don't consider that person cruel at all. - Even simple O.K. button has its controller behind it.

100% agreed. Yes, this is problem in most of a time.