Is romantic love a good basis for marriage?

[noodles]

I noticed many posts concerning the Love. And I got how a lot of you feel when there's a talk about love, maybe this is because everybody feels this phenomenon through his body and mind... and many people wish to get married to a person of their dream, to their loved ones and live happily. Now I want to ask, is romantic love a good basis for marriage? what do you think?

[SmIlIk]

why not :)

[vipshams]

Not always

[Hummer]

I think 50 % 50

[SmIlIk]

if you are lucky enough. if not bare with it :)

[Royal]

Depends!?!

[trigger-happy]

Not good as basis for marriage, but as one of its parts.

[JoJ]

YES, IT IS:lol:

[Legend]

if you are lucky enough. if not bare with it :)What about You?Are you lucky enough?

[Legend]

It could be,but very rare.....

[SmIlIk]

What about You?Are you lucky enough?

Positive...lucky as it ever can get :) I love my husband and inshaAllah I will love him forever. That's what we based our family on; love, care, trust and understanding.

[noodles]

smilik, glad for ya =)

[PainKiller]

What about You?Are you lucky enough?y r u asking her bout it? it matters for ya? ;)

[Legend]

y r u asking her bout it? it matters for ya? ;)Really doesn't.But I am happy to hear that:D

[JoJ]

Positive...lucky as it ever can get :) I love my husband and inshaAllah I will love him forever. That's what we based our family on; love, care, trust and understanding.
GOOD LUCK & BE HAPPY FOREVER

[Crazy Diamond]

Малаток ты, Смайлик! Респект. Так держать. Остались еще пары на кого смотреть и радоваца можно. Будешь для меня примером служить теперь. :)

Романтическая любовь энто не все. Надо что б еще много чего кликнуло: родители принюхались и полюбились, медицинские истории молодых подошли, денежки хранили в одном банке, учились в одной среде, и вскякие подобные мелочи жизни, да еще хотели от любови романтичной примерно одного. Я, конечно, спекулирую, замужем не была, и знать точно не могу. :rolleyes:

Смайлик, расскажи, поделись мудростью.

[Legend]

Малаток ты, Смайлик! Респект. Так держать. Остались еще пары на кого смотреть и радоваца можно. Будешь для меня примером служить теперь. :)

Романтическая любовь энто не все. Надо что б еще много чего кликнуло: родители принюхались и полюбились, медицинские истории молодых подошли, денежки хранили в одном банке, учились в одной среде, и вскякие подобные мелочи жизни, да еще хотели от любови романтичной примерно одного. Я, конечно, спекулирую, замужем не была, и знать точно не могу. :rolleyes:

Смайлик, расскажи, поделись мудростью.:) , interesno da?;)

[referee]

I noticed many posts concerning the Love. And I got how a lot of you feel when there's a talk about love, maybe this is because everybody feels this phenomenon through his body and mind... and many people wish to get married to a person of their dream, to their loved ones and live happily. Now I want to ask, is romantic love a good basis for marriage? what do you think?

In short, it is. Otherwise, it would resemble an animal pact between lowly people. Romance plays a crucial role in a marriage, but there are other things that must complement it. By romance here I mean a broader concept than teenager's lust for adventure.

[Alex]

Романтическая любовь энто не все. Надо что б еще много чего кликнуло: родители принюхались и полюбились, медицинские истории молодых подошли, денежки хранили в одном банке, учились в одной среде, и вскякие подобные мелочи жизни, да еще хотели от любови романтичной примерно одного. Я, конечно, спекулирую, замужем не была, и знать точно не могу.
Ого! Сколько условий-то. Этак тебе и не светит. ;) :D (шутка).
Вообще будь по-проще немного вот тебе и совет... Особенно первое условие сложно выполнить, а третье вообще значения не имеет. Важна психологическая совместимость друг с другом, и чтобы хотя бы какие-то общие интересы были. Ну и романтическая любовь важна, а то без нее брак обязательно рано или поздно развалится либо превратиться в тяжелую ношу.

[Crazy Diamond]

Ого! Сколько условий-то. Этак тебе и не светит. ;) :D (шутка).

шоб у тя на языке типун вылез от таких комментариев! :twisted: :twisted:

Вообще будь по-проще немного вот тебе и совет... Особенно первое условие сложно выполнить, а третье вообще значения не имеет. Важна психологическая совместимость друг с другом, и чтобы хотя бы какие-то общие интересы были. Ну и романтическая любовь важна, а то без нее брак обязательно рано или поздно развалится либо превратиться в тяжелую ношу.

а хотеть одного от брака и деньги в банке держать одном - тоже показатели психологической совместимости! :nod: так что буду, как хочу. я не верю в развод, поэнтому брак буду строить с умом. :nod: :nod:

[Alex]

шоб у тя на языке типун вылез от таких комментариев! :twisted: :twisted:
Ладно, извини, это я пошутил. Искренне желаю всего наилучшего. Удачи. ;) Не принимай близко к сердцу.

[referee]

что б еще много чего кликнуло: родители принюхались и полюбились, медицинские истории молодых подошли, денежки хранили в одном банке, учились в одной среде, и вскякие подобные мелочи жизни, да еще хотели от любови романтичной примерно одного. Я, конечно, спекулирую, замужем не была, и знать точно не могу. :rolleyes:

CDxon, Sovchilarni rosa qinatib koldirasisku:lol:
too high expectations may be a recipe for a long lonely life:lol: Medical history is my favourite;)

[Crazy Diamond]

CDxon, Sovchilarni rosa qinatib koldirasisku:lol:
too high expectations may be a recipe for a long lonely life:lol: Medical history is my favourite;)

I have high expectations and I can offer a lot in return. :yes: :yes:

A note for the record: one could be very lonely in the marriage; I am single and not lonely at all. :P

[referee]

I have high expectations and I can offer a lot in return. :yes: :yes:

A note for the record: one could be very lonely in the marriage; I am single and not lonely at all. :P

How true: loneliness is the state of the heart and mind of the person. Salute to your optimistic realism;)

[Crazy Diamond]

Алекс, ну и шуточки у тебя! За такие шуточки раньше знаешь что делали? Цементниками работать отправляли. :twisted:

Рефери: и тебе салют. Понимаешь ведь оказца, када хочешь. :D

[The Reaper]

I have high expectations and I can offer a lot in return. :yes: :yes:

A note for the record: one could be very lonely in the marriage; I am single and not lonely at all. :P

Single by choice? ;)

TR

[Alex]

Алекс, ну и шуточки у тебя! За такие шуточки раньше знаешь что делали? Цементниками работать отправляли. :twisted:
:shock: И когда это такое было :lol:

[Crazy Diamond]

Single by choice? ;)

TR

by the state of mind. :D

[The Reaper]

by the state of mind. :D

Well, that's a whole different ball game now. ;)
How long has this state of mind been dominating? :D

TR

[Lolika]

Life is different when you married.;)

[FARA_VA]

I think, it is. Romanticism makes your eyes blind at the mistakes and defficiencies. Have romantic love guyz:))

[Lolika]

I think, it is. Romanticism makes your eyes blind at the mistakes and defficiencies. Have romantic love guyz:))

Exactly...;)

[Gulya66]

Good question. I'd say that if your romantic love matches the reality and if both partners stay unchanged, then why not? But then who guarantees that nobody changes? Then the only option would be to admit that we change adn then try to adopt to it... Otherwise, romantic love cannot be a good basis...



I noticed many posts concerning the Love. And I got how a lot of you feel when there's a talk about love, maybe this is because everybody feels this phenomenon through his body and mind... and many people wish to get married to a person of their dream, to their loved ones and live happily. Now I want to ask, is romantic love a good basis for marriage? what do you think?

[Mubina]

Romantic love is one of parts of good basis for marriage that leads to mutual understanding, respect, care and support.

[Miracle]

Horoshaya tema :)

Ya dumau chto samoe prekrasnoe chto mojet proizoiti v nashei jizni eto lubov,nu a zamujestvo v sledstvii romanchicheskoi lubvi eto prosto dar nebes.

Kak chelovek zamujnii i dovolno schastlivii hochu otmetit chto bi ni bilo vihodite zamuj ili jenites tolko po lubvi.;) Tolko tak i togda vi smojete naiti vzaimoponimanie .Ved semeinaya jizn eto ne tolko solnishko na nebe,tam inogda proletaut i tuchki .I tolko lubiashie serdca sposobni vistoyat.:)

[Diablita]

I noticed many posts concerning the Love. And I got how a lot of you feel when there's a talk about love, maybe this is because everybody feels this phenomenon through his body and mind... and many people wish to get married to a person of their dream, to their loved ones and live happily. Now I want to ask, is romantic love a good basis for marriage? what do you think?

I love one guy and we're going to marry and I hope it should be nice to build u'r future with person whom u really love and live the life the way u like! :inlove:

[cool-gafur]

There is always the buety of forgeting and find an other girls thats just what I did . you see I liked this girl but she cheated on me so I got another 1 thats better . you have to love .

[Diablita]

You can always forget and find an other girls thats just what I did . you see I liked this girl but she cheated on me so I got another 1 thats better . you have to love .

Did u find u'r MS RIGHT?

[cool-gafur]

Did u find u'r MS RIGHT?what? what is ms

[Diablita]

what? what is ms

It means MISS!!!

[Hellblazer]

well it would have to be called as ROMANTIC MARRIAGE, but i never heard of it,couple can have as much of romance in their life before marriage, after if they'll still have it ????? I DO NOT THINK SO

PRONTO

[Diablita]

well it would have to be called as ROMANTIC MARRIAGE, but i never heard of it,couple can have as much of romance in their life before marriage, after if they'll still have it ????? I DO NOT THINK SO

PRONTO

Perhaps in a year I'll tell u is ROMANTIC MARRIAGE good thing or not

[cool-gafur]

Did u find u'r MS RIGHT?very hard to find

[Diablita]

very hard to find

I have realised one thing.....u never know when u'll meet her but u should really know what do u want ...... and one day when she'll come u'll recognise her without troubles :angwings:

[cool-gafur]

I have realised one thing.....u never know when u'll meet her but u should really know what do u want ...... and one day when she'll come u'll recognise her without troubles :angwings:I told you that I got an other one . I have 1 gf . I like her and love her .

[Diablita]

I told you that I got an other one . I have 1 gf . I like her and love her .

Wow.....sorry I've forgotten about it :) I'm really glad for that :)

[Alchemist]

I told you that I got an other one . I have 1 gf . I like her and love her .

U like her and love her??? what does that mean??? like and love is two different things, u either like or love her.

[cool-gafur]

U like her and love her??? what does that mean??? like and love is two different things, u either like or love her.that means I love my new 1 better then that old hag who cheated on me forget about her

[Diablita]

U like her and love her??? what does that mean??? like and love is two different things, u either like or love her.
Can u explain the difference and connection between LIKE and LOVE u'rself? :)

[lavelaso]

Can u explain the difference and connection between LIKE and LOVE u'rself? :)

Can u explain the difference between love and passion ?

[Diablita]

Can u explain the difference between love and passion ?

Yes......LOVE is PRESENT....PASSION is PAST!!!

[lavelaso]

Yes......LOVE is PRESENT....PASSION is PAST!!!

Actually, love is when u want to give, passion is when u want to take.

[Diablita]

Actually, love is when u want to give, passion is when u want to take.

I gave u example in my own case!!! And it is close to u'r version.

[cool-gafur]

Love is like a red feeling .

[lavelaso]

I gave u example in my own case!!! And it is close to u'r version.

nevermind...

[Diablita]

Love is like a red feeling .
Love is such wonderful feeling that u can't express it with words.

[lavelaso]

Love is such wonderful feeling that u can't express it with words.

why do u love ?

[Diablita]

why do u love ?
Coz I don't wanna be alone.

[lavelaso]

Coz I don't wanna be alone.

u dont have to love not to be alone.

[Diablita]

u dont have to love not to be alone.
I can do nothing if I love and I can't spend time with a bunch of stupid guys.

[lavelaso]

I can do nothing if I love and I can't spend time with a bunch of stupid guys.

why u need to spend time with stupid guys ?
so u want to say if u fell in love u r totally passive.

[Diablita]

why u need to spend time with stupid guys ?
so u want to say if u fell in love u r totally passive.
What do u mean?

[lavelaso]

What do u mean?

nothing...

[lavelaso]

Interpersonal love

Interpersonal love is love between human beings, and is more sympathetic than the notion of very much liking for another. Although feelings are sometimes reciprocal, there can also be unrequited love (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Unrequited_love). Interpersonal love is usually found in an interpersonal relationship (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Interpersonal_relationship), such as between family members, friends, and couples. However, people often express love for other people outside of these relationships through compassionate outreach and volunteering.

Some elements that are often present in interpersonal love:



Affection (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Affection): appreciation of another
Attachment: satisfying basic emotional needs
Altruism (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Altruism): selfless or unselfish concern for another
Reciprocation (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Reciprocation): if love is mutual
Commitment (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Commitment): a desire to maintain love
Emotional intimacy (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Emotional_intimacy): sharing emotions and feelings
Kinship (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kinship): family bonds
Passion (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Passion_%28emotion%29): sexual desire
Physical intimacy (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Physical_intimacy): sharing of intimate personal space
Self-interest (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-interest): desiring rewards
Service (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Service): desire to help
*wikipedia

[cool-gafur]

I love girls:(

[Alchemist]

well like is like like, i mean its nothin serious, just like dating or hangin out, or like havin sex with, but love, is when u wanna get serious its relationship, its when u commiting urself , its someone u wanna have kids with , its when u start thinkin about marriage and stuff, when u go crazy of this girl, u will do anythin for her, there is a big difference between like and love.

Can u explain the difference and connection between LIKE and LOVE u'rself? :)

[Alchemist]

but still bro, it ends up that u fall in love, we dont look for love, love looks for us, thats the point u know, no matter how u hide from love, love is gonna find u anyways.

u dont have to love not to be alone.

[lavelaso]

well like is like like, i mean its nothin serious, just like dating or hangin out, or like havin sex with, but love, is when u wanna get serious its relationship, its when u commiting urself , its someone u wanna have kids with , its when u start thinkin about marriage and stuff, when u go crazy of this girl, u will do anythin for her, there is a big difference between like and love.

can man love another man ?

[lavelaso]

but still bro, it ends up that u fall in love, we dont look for love, love looks for us, thats the point u know, no matter how u hide from love, love is gonna find u anyways.

Dr. Andrew Newberg (http://en.wikipedia.org/w/index.php?title=Andrew_Newberg&action=edit), a neuroscientist, suggests that this reaction to love is so similar to that of drugs because without love, humanity would die out.

[Alchemist]

Yeah im wit u on this one, love is my weed, its my extazy, its my lsd, its my cocaine, its my heroine, its my 1.75L grey goose vodka, and on and on and on.

Dr. Andrew Newberg (http://en.wikipedia.org/w/index.php?title=Andrew_Newberg&action=edit), a neuroscientist, suggests that this reaction to love is so similar to that of drugs because without love, humanity would die out.

[Alchemist]

I dont know homie, never experienced that one, u tell me.:lol:

can man love another man ?

[lavelaso]

I dont know homie, never experienced that one, u tell me.:lol:

i guess man can love a man, like gay marriage, i think they love each other...

[Alchemist]

can a women love women??

[lavelaso]

:Pcan a women love women??

yes, same as above.

hey how about human love animal ?

[Alchemist]

wuahahahah, what u mean on that one??? homie u need to stop watchin that porno with animals.:lol:

:P

yes, same as above.

hey how about human love animal ?

[lavelaso]

wuahahahah, what u mean on that one??? homie u need to stop watchin that porno with animals.:lol:

nah u got me wrong holmes, i mean sometimes i see ppl in park, and on the streets and they treat their pets like their kids. but i didnt see, but i think some people love their pets.

[Alchemist]

Lol, I was just playin, my granpa, he drives me crazy with he's dog, when this dog is sick or smth, he has a near heartatack. Interesting thing is that he always hated animals, but then we asked him to hold the dog we bought for a couple of days, when we came back to take the dog, he wouldnt give it to us. I think its more of lonelyness, cause he lives alone, whatever it is homie, he loves that dog more than he loves me.:rolleyes:

nah u got me wrong holmes, i mean sometimes i see ppl in park, and on the streets and they treat their pets like their kids. but i didnt see, but i think some people love their pets.

[lavelaso]

Lol, I was just playin, my granpa, he drives me crazy with he's dog, when this dog is sick or smth, he has a near heartatack. Interesting thing is that he always hated animals, but then we asked him to hold the dog we bought for a couple of days, when we came back to take the dog, he wouldnt give it to us. I think its more of lonelyness, cause he lives alone, whatever it is homie, he loves that dog more than he loves me.:rolleyes:

awww poor thing, grandpa doesnt love you, awww. its ok, we will kidnap his dog and he will love you more, I promise.

P.S.:lol:

[Alchemist]

aha lol homes, tryin to kidnap this dog for years....., just dont wanna break my grandpa's heart.:lol:

awww poor thing, grandpa doesnt love you, awww. its ok, we will kidnap his dog and he will love you more, I promise.

P.S.:lol:

[Diablita]

Hey man thank u for the responce & u're totally right about u'r thinkings WHAT LOVE IS? now I know that I'm in a right way :) and I like u'r conversation about dog and u'r grandpa........I had a similar story once upon a time :)

[Diablita]

Ups I have forgotten to put the following message in my previous posting :)

well like is like like, i mean its nothin serious, just like dating or hangin out, or like havin sex with, but love, is when u wanna get serious its relationship, its when u commiting urself , its someone u wanna have kids with , its when u start thinkin about marriage and stuff, when u go crazy of this girl, u will do anythin for her, there is a big difference between like and love.

[Alchemist]

no probs, always welcome.;)

Hey man thank u for the responce & u're totally right about u'r thinkings WHAT LOVE IS? now I know that I'm in a right way :) and I like u'r conversation about dog and u'r grandpa........I had a similar story once upon a time :)