Do you think it's possible to have successful long distanse relantionship?

[shady_lady]

Do you think it's possible to have a successful long distance relantionship?
Why or why not?

Who is usually unfaithful in the relantionship, man or woman?


If you can please write the answers in English. :D

[MegaZ]

Long distance relationship does work out for a short period of time (considering that the two love each other). If you are talking about more than a year, forget it :) It's simple - your partner will have a lot of opportunities, meet new people, just like you.

You can't say that males are more unfaithful than women or vice versa. It all depends on a person, his/her perceptions, background, past relationships, opportunities and many other factors.

[Webbie]

Do you think it's possible to have a successful long distance relantionship?
Why or why not?

Who is usually unfaithful in the relantionship, man or woman?


If you can please write the answers in English. :D

I had an expirience of a long-distance relationship, never worked out. It lasted for about 6 months(dang! that's a lot), when I went back, I completely changed my opinion about the person. Well, not necessarly, in a bad way, I just realized that I can no longer be with him and that in 'real life' he's different
Sincerely, Webbie

[shady_lady]

Maybe somebody also?:D

[nbyall12]

Do you think it's possible to have a successful long distance relantionship?
Why or why not?

Who is usually unfaithful in the relantionship, man or woman?


If you can please write the answers in English. :D
It does NOT work! At first it might seem like it does work, but it doesn't last very long. I kinda had something like that, I tried to be JUST friends but...
We've known each other for over a year, at first we talked like everyday, this summer we only talked twice... now he won't reply to my e-mail, I know its' my fault too, also there is this age difference, it all sux so bad! Also I'm kinda glad that it ended, 'cause I was always afraid that my mom would find out lol. Well you really cannot get to know someone without meeting them in REAL LIFE, it is impossible!

[trigger-happy]

I'd say it's possible but not probable. All relationships require a lot of upkeep and it gets all the more difficult when partners cannot see each other.

As to which gender cheats more often, from a purely statistical point of view, I think it's men. Just because they are hard-wired to think about sex more (hence to feel the need to fill the void left by a separation).

[shady_lady]

It does NOT work! At first it might seem like it does work, but it doesn't last very long. I kinda had something like that, I tried to be JUST friends but...
We've known each other for over a year, at first we talked like everyday, this summer we only talked twice... now he won't reply to my e-mail, I know its' my fault too, also there is this age difference, it all sux so bad! Also I'm kinda glad that it ended, 'cause I was always afraid that my mom would find out lol. Well you really cannot get to know someone without meeting them in REAL LIFE, it is impossible!
xm how i understood you it was just friendship:D
but what about relationship:?

[nbyall12]

xm how i understood you it was just friendship:D
but what about relationship:?
it wasn't just friendship

[WASP]

Everything is possible, as long as it is done right. All it takes is a faith.

[SoniTa]

my subjective opinion is: it's not posibble
though I'm developing theory of intellectual orgazm, it's really important for me to feel the warmth of touch...

[PainKiller]

It depends. If it is the person whom U already know from real life, it is possible. But if u start "relationship" with a person in a cyber space, and than meet him/her in a year (f. ex), u may get deeeeeeply dissapointed. I have Felt that on my own skin, and do not want to repeat it again.
Chatting, Phone calls r still not enough to get a full, objective information about the person. :(

[Vostochnaya...]

It depends. If it is the person whom U already know from real life, it is possible. But if u start "relationship" with a person in a cyber space, and than meet him/her in a year (f. ex), u may get deeeeeeply dissapointed. I have Felt that on my own skin, and do not want to repeat it again.
Chatting, Phone calls r still not enough to get a full, objective information about the person. :(
да, ты права на 100%!

[shady_lady]

думаю, что такое невозможно. любые теплые дружеские отношения строятся на повседневных мелочах, встречах, совместном времяпрепровождении. когда люди вместе, когда они видят друг друга в лицо, вместе веселятся, делят горести, тогда они привязываются друг к другу все больше и больше. им есть что вспомнить, что обсудить.
а если же они далеко друг от друга, то эта связь слабеет, у каждого свои заботы, свои встречи с новыми людьми и в переписке они просто говорят друг другу "все нормально, никто не болеет, учусь, работаю" и все это без подробностей. то есть нет уже того тесного контакта.
ведь люди меняются. и потом уже сложно найти и узнать того человека который был тебе дорог. приходится как бы открывать его заново, что ли...
Vostochnaya i asked you to write the answers in English:D

[Desperado]

Vostochnaya i asked you to write the answers in English:D


angliyskini bilmasa nima qisin bechora qiz?

[shady_lady]

angliyskini bilmasa nima qisin bechora qiz?
Sorry but i need in it in English
it's very important for me:D
i know and understand russia
i write the most of answers in it
but now it's another i need english:D

[Focus]

Hmm, if you mean "Can two have successful relationship (love, family(husband and wife)distant from each other," I personally think it is difficult to answer.

1. For me it would be difficult. I belive man and woman must be together.
2. I don't know if successful but many people do have relationship like this, depending on circumstances, and one of the things that keep them going is religion.

But in the long run it is difficult.

[Vostochnaya...]

yeah, dear shady_lady, sorry, i missed this point...it is hard for me to write in english, but i'll try.
so, in my opinion, to have such successful long distance relationship is impossible. from my point of view, in order to build tight relations people need to see each other all the time, to be close to each other, to share happiness or spend holidays together.
and when people are far from each other, they actually have no enough time, and they can communicate through e-mail. however, people do not write everything what happens to them, they just use common phrases, such as "oh, i'm ok, glad to hear you, etc", without details. therefore, close contact with the person disappears.
oh, i hope you understand me.:)

[NOAVATAR]

I don't believe in this 'long distance' thingie anymore. Had seen it on my own example. We met at Choyhona! LOL :lol: At the beginning there was a kind of ambiguity. You're kind of unsure of this cyber thing, but then, some kind of warmth, love-like feeling comes about. If within a month or sth you don't meet him/her it's better to stop it.

In my case it lasted for some time via Internet and phone calls coz, at the time we could not afford to meet each other. She would trusting me less and less, without no apparent reason. Always question me about people I am surrounded by. This would frustrate me. Then I thought that even if she was with me there would be talks of mutual trust etc, so why blame her now?Then suddenly I realized, and I think she did too, that we were risking hugely in probably the most important thing in our lives. We stopped our 'relationship' by one phone call. It was harsh, but right! I haven't heard from her since. Hope she is doing well, maybe married by now :)

Another story: the girl I know told me hers. They met at a party, but the guy lives in another city. So they exchange phones and met after a month or two of talking via phone. He apparently later began showing early signs of jealousy. He would question her every move, where she goes, whom she meets there, and it's all via phone!!! which made her rightfully cold toward him. That's how their story ended.

See similar trend? Trust is impossible without close phisical contact well, there are exceptions, naturally.

Strictly,

[shady_lady]

yeah, dear shady_lady, sorry, i missed this point...it is hard for me to write in english, but i'll try.
so, in my opinion, to have such successful long distance relationship is impossible. from my point of view, in order to build tight relations people need to see each other all the time, to be close to each other, to share happiness or spend holidays together.
and when people are far from each other, they actually have no enough time, and they can communicate through e-mail. however, people do not write everything what happens to them, they just use common phrases, such as "oh, i'm ok, glad to hear you, etc", without details. therefore, close contact with the person disappears.
oh, i hope you understand me.:)yes i do my english is not good too
but it was my homework and i needed in it in english;)
thank you:D

[nbyall12]

yes i do my english is not good too
but it was my homework and i needed in it in english;)
thank you:D
it was your homework?? NOT FAIR!

what class is it for?

[Legend]

Lol homework :) But anyways it is not possible....If we talk about being unfaithfull it depends on a person the way he lives,religion and believes and I guess men more unfaithfull,but..recent researches show that woman becoming more unfaithfull than used to be,more cheating occures...

Sincers,
S.R.

[chicagoan]

Everything is possible, as long as it is done right. All it takes is a faith.
Qoyil, lo'nda va chiroyli aytilgan.

mr

[chicagoan]

...I personally know two couples who met first online and eventually married...offline, and living happily ever after...

One is Uzbek couple, and the other is mixed race.

But most of all, both couples are muslim.

mashallah, tabarakallah.

mr

[KeSha]

If you can please write the answers in English. :D

Shady, tell me why all our answers write to English what the problem with an Russian language..... :shocked:

[nbyall12]

Shady, tell me why all our answers write to English what the problem with an Russian language..... :shocked:
She already did, she said it was her homework. lol

[Guardian]

I don;t think it might be good idea. Being 'friends' online might be dangerous. Friends are OK, but the lovers. Just I can't imagine how ppl fall in love virtually?:) Once they will see in reality their online-partners they m,ight get ninto stress and reviel they were in dellusion. Most of all, it just sucks the time, that you can spend in more real, useful, effective activities.

Mda...!!!
Joe

[shady_lady]

Shady, tell me why all our answers write to English what the problem with an Russian language..... :shocked:
Sun i need them in english because it' s my homework:D

[bonu]

yeah, dear shady_lady, sorry, i missed this point...it is hard for me to write in english, but i'll try.
so, in my opinion, to have such successful long distance relationship is impossible. from my point of view, in order to build tight relations people need to see each other all the time, to be close to each other, to share happiness or spend holidays together.
and when people are far from each other, they actually have no enough time, and they can communicate through e-mail. however, people do not write everything what happens to them, they just use common phrases, such as "oh, i'm ok, glad to hear you, etc", without details. therefore, close contact with the person disappears.
oh, i hope you understand me.:)
your english is very good.

[shady_lady]

please, update the thread:D
i need more info about this topic
if you could, please list different sources of info (books, periodicals, magazines, and on-line databases);)

[shady_lady]

please, include english sources only:D

[WASP]

yeah, dear shady_lady, sorry, i missed this point...it is hard for me to write in english, but i'll try.
so, in my opinion, to have such successful long distance relationship is impossible. from my point of view, in order to build tight relations people need to see each other all the time, to be close to each other, to share happiness or spend holidays together.
and when people are far from each other, they actually have no enough time, and they can communicate through e-mail. however, people do not write everything what happens to them, they just use common phrases, such as "oh, i'm ok, glad to hear you, etc", without details. therefore, close contact with the person disappears.
oh, i hope you understand me.:)

I see her point, but I disagree from many different angles. To make it simple for you folks: I either write, or don't. When I write, I am a circumstantial writer... I never write just to say "oh i am fine bla bla." I guess it could work for me, as it has been for many years :) Moreover, phone is another way of communicating, where you really cannot get away by saying “oh I am fine... whassup with you and etc.”

[4twelve]

If the Result is ~ To meet again ~Every waiting minutes hours day and years are holy......



for so long
For so long i have waited for you
to want to hold me each and every night,
i have wanted to be the object of your affection.
For so long i have waited for you
to tell me that you have loved me for so long,
and that you finally have the guts and grit to tell me!
For so long i have watched you fall in and out of love with so many women (while i have only truly loved one)
while you always seemed to care and pay attention
even if you really don't care.
For so long i have waited for this moment
and i can't believe it's finally here,
you are sitting here, telling me
you really do love me and you really do care
For all this time i have waited...
it is finally paying off
and you want to hold me as i want to hold you
and i can't begin to start to thank you
for making me wait for so long
because that time of waiting has made me need you more.

Am i very romantic?;) Whatever!

[shady_lady]

If the Result is ~ To meet again ~Every waiting minutes hours day and years are holy......



for so long
For so long i have waited for you
to want to hold me each and every night,
i have wanted to be the object of your affection.
For so long i have waited for you
to tell me that you have loved me for so long,
and that you finally have the guts and grit to tell me!
For so long i have watched you fall in and out of love with so many women (while i have only truly loved one)
while you always seemed to care and pay attention
even if you really don't care.
For so long i have waited for this moment
and i can't believe it's finally here,
you are sitting here, telling me
you really do love me and you really do care
For all this time i have waited...
it is finally paying off
and you want to hold me as i want to hold you
and i can't begin to start to thank you
for making me wait for so long
because that time of waiting has made me need you more.

Am i very romantic?;) Whatever!
xm eto mne;)

[CrazyDT]

... how about finding out your long-distance, presumably online, relationship is not someone's workhome project? ;)


dt

[KeSha]

Sun i need them in english because it' s my homework:D

honey i has understood you, now ;)

[4twelve]

xm eto mne;)
So??? I didnt understand again:(

[shady_lady]

So??? I didnt understand again:(
translation WOW IS THIS FOR ME:D

[shady_lady]

honey i has understood you, now ;)IF YES PLZZZZ HELP ME
it's so hard:(

[4twelve]

translation WOW IS THIS FOR ME:D
Take it ..eNJOY iT. My Pleasure;)

[KeSha]

IF YES PLZZZZ HELP ME
it's so hard:(

what the problem??- tell me.... and may be, i can help you :rolleyes:

[shady_lady]

what the problem??- tell me.... and may be, i can help you :rolleyes:
solnishko read the topic:D

[master_chuk]

da,glavno chtobi ochag vzaimnosti lubvi i ponimanya ne ugasal mejdy druvmya

[_MiZZou_]

Distance is always the real test of realtionship. For the most part long distance relationship start without one knowing what the other doing, this is a major difference to the real life situation I think. And of course you can not just lay there gropeing, fonding seing each other so it comes down to conversation. Just speaking to him/her is a lot more meaningful, you learn more about them.If you can survive it just like that, knowing that you have affectionate feelings for this person and knowing this person has the same feelings for u I see nothing wrong with the concept! And only Love can help them, 'cause It is passion, obsession, someone you can not live without. If u don't start with that, what r u going to end up with? fall head over heels, I say find someone u can love like crazy and who'll love u the same way back, and not a thing wil be on your way :)

[bilmadim]

no its not. pm, email or phone me then ill tell you

[The Reaper]

Do you think it's possible to have a successful long distance relantionship?
Why or why not?

Long distance relationships don't work, IMHO. I've never had experience with them, but I don't get the whole point about them.
What's the reason? If one has things going for him(her)self, why tie yourself down with commitments towards someone who's not even there?

Who is usually unfaithful in the relantionship, man or woman?

Why do you have to use the word "unfaithful" in this instance?
Do people actually believe this monogamy BS in long distance relationships!? :lol:

TR

[illusion]

As I've mentioned earlier, long distance relationships suck a big time...Phone calls, e-mails and conversations over the msger are not effective at all, it's just self-deceptive actions of the couples,who actually believe that it's possible to save their relationships without any physical contact...
In addition, the feelings will fade away after some time...

[The Reaper]

As I've mentioned earlier, long distance relationships suck a big time...Phone calls, e-mails and conversations over the msger are not effective at all, it's just self-deceptive actions of the couples,who actually believe that it's possible to save their relationships without any physical contact...
In addition, the feelings will fade away after some time...

Exactly.
IMO, people who are into long distance relationships have some issues with self-esteem, and/or plain losers. For them these relationships are about massaging their own little ego. ;)

Of course, there are exceptions.

TR

[Maroon]

Exactly.
IMO, people who are into long distance relationships have some issues with self-esteem, and/or plain losers. For them these relationships are about massaging their own little ego. ;)

Of course, there are exceptions.

TR

Buddy, there are no people who are "into" long distance relationships. I do not think it has to do with self-esteem or about being a loser. People should not judge from one self, do not you think? :D So who are you to judge them?No one. You might have a self-esteem problem yourself, which is "commitment". But who does not these days? :)

When people have feelings for one another they go on and have a long distance relationship and it is a great "oppurtunity" to test your feelings towards your so called "loved" one. Anyone who has had long distance relationships my greatest respects to them. I've been with my ex-bf for 1 and half years together, but when I left for Austria...the "trust" problems from the other side of the phone began. :D

It is difficult when the partners do not have the oppurtunity to see each other too often. The problem I have with long distance relationship is if we were too long away from each other. So, no U.S and all that crap. Europe is good, Russia is included, Tashkent is good coz there is always Moscow for the meeting place...no visa needed. :lol:

Ciao.

[The Reaper]

Buddy, there are no people who are "into" long distance relationships. I do not think it has to do with self-esteem or about being a loser. People should not judge from one self, do not you think? :D So who are you to judge them?No one. You might have a self-esteem problem yourself, which is "commitment". But who does not these days? :)

Defensive, aren't we? :D
It always cracks me up when I hit a soft spot. :)

Again, why would a person who is self-sufficient, successful, and ambitious, keep a long distance relationship? There's always a better looking, smarter, funnier girl/guy out there.
Nobody is irreplaceable, and those who think they are, are in complete denial. ;)

When people have feelings for one another they go on and have a long distance relationship and it is a great "oppurtunity" to test your feelings towards your so called "loved" one. Anyone who has had long distance relationships my greatest respects to them. I've been with my ex-bf for 1 and half years together, but when I left for Austria...the "trust" problems from the other side of the phone began. :D

So, long distance relationships don't work afterall? :)
You moved on, but I know of people who cannot; and IMO, those are the ones with issues I mentioned - loser attitude, lack of adaptability, low self-esteem etc. Again, there are ALWAYS exceptions, but exceptions generally prove the rule.

It is difficult when the partners do not have the oppurtunity to see each other too often.

Not only is it difficult, it completely negates the whole point of relationships. ;)

TR

[Maroon]

Defensive, aren't we? :D
It always cracks me up when I hit a soft spot. :)

Again, why would a person who is self-sufficient, successful, and ambitious, keep a long distance relationship? There's always a better looking, smarter, funnier girl/guy out there.
Nobody is irreplaceable, and those who think they are, are in complete denial. ;)



This is very debatable young man. What if the girl/guy you just broke up with was the appropriate partner for you? I mean people could stay single all their lives if they go with the concept that there are "better looking, smarter, funnier girl/guy out there". There comes a time where you need to settle down and in a relationship it comes to different things and sometimes long-distance relationships is one of them. There will be always these kind of people, but will you break up everytime you see them coming? Which still does not mean you will get a long. I guess these things you know and a relationships is about compremise. If you live with the idea that there is someone better out there, means just that you are too scared of settling down and accepting the fact that you have more responsibilities.

Well, I am very pleased that I could crack you up. Makes me happy to make other people laugh. ;)

D.

[The Reaper]

This is very debatable young man. What if the girl/guy you just broke up with was the appropriate partner for you?

If you broke up with him/her, or moved to a different country, that means that he/she is not THAT appropriate, doesn't it?

I mean people could stay single all their lives if they go with the concept that there are "better looking, smarter, funnier girl/guy out there".

Well, we're not talking about relationships in general, are we? :)
IMO, long distance relationships don't have anything in common with real relationships.

There comes a time where you need to settle down and in a relationship it comes to different things and sometimes long-distance relationships is one of them.

I personally, would never marry a girl, whom I mostly know through e-mails and phone conversations. It takes a hell of a lot more to realize whether she is the one whose face I want to see the rest of my life.
And by the way, why on earth would anyone want to SETTLE DOWN through long distance relationship!? :shock:

There will be always these kind of people, but will you break up everytime you see them coming? Which still does not mean you will get a long. I guess these things you know and a relationships is about compremise. If you live with the idea that there is someone better out there, means just that you are too scared of settling down and accepting the fact that you have more responsibilities.

I'm not scared of idea of settling down. I just don't get the point of loading yourself with responsibilities when you are single.
I'll have plenty when I marry. :)

Well, I am very pleased that I could crack you up. Makes me happy to make other people laugh. ;)

D.

Thank you, I'm enjoying your postings as well ;)

TR

[Bratan]

Sorry but i need in it in English
it's very important for me:D
i know and understand russia
i write the most of answers in it
but now it's another i need english:D
very good idea c'mon guys let's submit all our post's in english why not?
respect shady_lady:cool:

[Maroon]

]If you broke up with him/her, or moved to a different country, that means that he/she is not THAT appropriate, doesn't it?

Excuse-moi! There are tons of reasons why people move, alright?


Well, we're not talking about relationships in general, are we? :)
IMO, long distance relationships don't have anything in common with real relationships. I personally, would never marry a girl, whom I mostly know through e-mails and phone conversations. It takes a hell of a lot more to realize whether she is the one whose face I want to see the rest of my life.
And by the way, why on earth would anyone want to SETTLE DOWN through long distance relationship!? :shock:


Listen, I think you are mixing up long distance relaltionships with virtual relationships. I am talking about relationships with people who have been lasting for some time, and they somehow got "seperated". Got it? Is it work wise, study wise, family wise.


I'm not scared of idea of settling down. I just don't get the point of loading yourself with responsibilities when you are single.
I'll have plenty when I marry. :)

I do not care about your personal life and your personal goals. I am talking about people/life in general.

I repeat again, we are talking about relationships which were "active" in reality for a while, not a virtual thing.

D.

[The Reaper]

Excuse-moi! There are tons of reasons why people move, alright?

I know.
Unless someone is threatening you in your country, why leave the "love of your life"? :)
If the person is not someone you love, then why even bother to try keeping it going even after you moved?

Listen, I think you are mixing up long distance relaltionships with virtual relationships. I am talking about relationships with people who have been lasting for some time, and they somehow got "seperated". Got it? Is it work wise, study wise, family wise.

Long distance relationships, have all characteristics of virtual relationships, the most important being the absence of contact.

I do not care about your personal life and your personal goals. I am talking about people/life in general.

So you're saying that, generally, long distance relationships work? :)
Last time I checked it was quite the opposite.

I repeat again, we are talking about relationships which were "active" in reality for a while, not a virtual thing.

D.

I know that.
Does it really matter that the relationships were "active" at a certain point? They become no different than virtual ones once partners separate.

TR

[Maroon]

I know.
Unless someone is threatening you in your country, why leave the "love of your life"? :)
If the person is not someone you love, then why even bother to try keeping it going even after you moved?

Well, you are not exactly leaving your country, right? They are tons of example where people just leave for a certain time.

Long distance relationships, have all characteristics of virtual relationships, the most important being the absence of contact.

Yes, but still virtual is different. You call "virtual" when you have not seen this person in REALITY atttt aaaaaaaalllllll!!!!!


So you're saying that, generally, long distance relationships work? :)
Last time I checked it was quite the opposite.

I ain't saying that. My point is, you should not generalize. Be more optimistic. Maybe it can work between me and you. :lol:



I know that.
Does it really matter that the relationships were "active" at a certain point? They become no different than virtual ones once partners separate.

NO. They do not. For example, I know that if I have a relationship in Tashkent I can gurantee 1000% that we will see each other. That is like for sure. Komu to vezet, a komu to net. There a different types of long distance relationship. Basically, it means- you are away from each other, does not have to be a year. Can be a few months. So, every case is different. Some people have the oppurtunity to travel for the weekends to see their girl/guy.

[The Reaper]

Well, you are not exactly leaving your country, right? They are tons of example where people just leave for a certain time.

I know, but let's say you leave to study. Don't you think that both partners will have natural temptations? Some can resist, while the majority cannot.

Yes, but still virtual is different. You call "virtual" when you have not seen this person in REALITY atttt aaaaaaaalllllll!!!!!

I know that. Again, how does it change anything? I've known plenty of girls, but does it mean that if I start conversating with them over the phone, or through IM, it's going to be the same?

I ain't saying that. My point is, you should not generalize. Be more optimistic. Maybe it can work between me and you. :lol:

I'm not generalizing. I emphasized several times that there are exceptions.
You think it can work out between us? I'm optimistic, but not THAT optimistic! :lol:

NO. They do not. For example, I know that if I have a relationship in Tashkent I can gurantee 1000% that we will see each other.

By "seeing", you mean continuing as before?
But can everyone guarantee 1000% that they will "see" their partner? ;)

That is like for sure. Komu to vezet, a komu to net. There a different types of long distance relationship. Basically, it means- you are away from each other, does not have to be a year. Can be a few months. So, every case is different. Some people have the oppurtunity to travel for the weekends to see their girl/guy.

In your case, just like in the majority of cases, it didn't work out though. ;)

TR

[Maroon]

In your case, just like in the majority of cases, it didn't work out though. ;)

TR

Yeah, but that don't mean that IF i have a long distance relationship it wont work.

Yeah, maybe it wont work between us. You seem to be too pessimestic. :D

You can always solve the "natural temptations" and besides who would know, right? It is more acceptable than if it were while you are together. ;)

Cheers. ;)

[The Reaper]

Yeah, but that don't mean that IF i have a long distance relationship it wont work.

It doesn't mean that it won't work. But odds are against you. ;)

Yeah, maybe it wont work between us. You seem to be too pessimestic. :D

Nah sweety, I'm just boringly realistic. :lol:

You can always solve the "natural temptations" and besides who would know, right? It is more acceptable than if it were while you are together. ;)

Cheers. ;)

Well, yeah.... but... why have a "menu" when you can have a "kitchen"? :)

TR

[Bratan]

Shady, tell me why all our answers write to English what the problem with an Russian language..... :shocked:

kesha, u dumbass what piece u didn't understand when she said only in english

if she said in english that's it no ****ing around that means no russian or any language

tovba odamlaga hayron qolasan:moder:

[The Reaper]

shady_lady:

My advice - move on, and save this drama for something worthy.
If you meet him again - fine; if you don't - even better.
By sitting, and second guessing yourself, you only make matters worse.

TR

[bilmadim]

maybe shady_lady and i should test this long distance relationship thing. and reaper as she mentioned this was her homework so i dont think she actually did experience long distance relatiowapoiejtpship.

[illusion]

Exactly.
IMO, people who are into long distance relationships have some issues with self-esteem, and/or plain losers. For them these relationships are about massaging their own little ego. ;)

Of course, there are exceptions.

TR

Well, actually it’s impossible to be into long distance relationships voluntarily, it’s usually inevitable circumstances of this uneasy life that separate ppl…If a person is really into long distance relationships, he or she must definitely see a doctor…..

P.S. Off-topic: The Reaper, sorry but I've never seen you before in here..Are you a newcomer or u've just changed yr username? U really remind me of MZN...But since u put "TR", I guess i'm confusing u with someone...
But anyways, like this exceptional logic of yours...;)

[The Reaper]

Well, actually it’s impossible to be into long distance relationships voluntarily, it’s usually inevitable circumstances of this uneasy life that separate ppl…

I personally believe that each person makes a choice. It's not about circumstances, but their decisions. Being able to live with them, is a whole different issue. ;)
I noticed that sometimes by referring to "circumstances", people try to avoid accepting responsibility for their past actions.

P.S. Off-topic: The Reaper, sorry but I've never seen you before in here..Are you a newcomer or u've just changed yr username? U really remind me of MZN...But since u put "TR", I guess i'm confusing u with someone...

I'm a newcomer here.

But anyways, like this exceptional logic of yours...;)

Thank you. I knew that there are some reasonable people here. :)

TR

[Maroon]

shady_lady:

My advice - move on, and save this drama for something worthy.
If you meet him again - fine; if you don't - even better.
By sitting, and second guessing yourself, you only make matters worse.

TR

Buddy, you really must have been hurt by a "loved" one. Dissapointed in love, aint ya? :D

[The Reaper]

Buddy, you really must have been hurt by a "loved" one. Dissapointed in love, aint ya? :D

Is that an offer? :)

TR

[Maroon]

Is that an offer? :)

TR

I do not make offers, I only get them. ;) :D

D.

[The Reaper]

I do not make offers, I only get them. ;) :D

D.

Well, sometimes compromise works too! :D

TR

[Shaki]

Hell YE!!! It IS possible 100%!!! Damn all those pesimistic ideas! I'm gonna be again with my sweetheart in 1.5 months after 9 months long "distant relationship". Hurrrrray!

PS Wouldn't u believe in my personal experience ;)

[The Reaper]

Hell YE!!! It IS possible 100%!!! Damn all those pesimistic ideas! I'm gonna be again with my sweetheart in 1.5 months after 9 months long "distant relationship". Hurrrrray!

PS Wouldn't u believe in my personal experience ;)

Congrats!

It's not about being pessimistic, but about being realistic.

Your case is the exception, but again, just because it worked for you doesn't mean it'll work for everybody else. ;)

TR

[JoJ]

Congrats!
It's not about being pessimistic, but about being realistic.
Your case is the exception, but again, just because it worked for you doesn't mean it'll work for everybody else. ;)
TR

life is full of exceptions, dude, if u keep hoping and do something to keep it its possible to have a relationship even if u r on Mars;) ;)

i know many this kinda "exceptions" :lol:

[The Reaper]

life is full of exceptions, dude, if u keep hoping and do something to keep it its possible to have a relationship even if u r on Mars;) ;)

I know that life is full of exceptions, but I don't like to bet on them. Hence, I never liked casinos. ;)

i know many this kinda "exceptions" :lol:

So you mean that it's quite the opposite, i.e. long distance relationships generally work? ;)


TR

[Sarahjon]

it's impossible. someone gets hurt. evidence is more than abundant that ld-relationships don't work. people "move on" even when they are at the same place and time... the more so when the relationship is ld. i have plenty of friends who had to "move on"... unfortunately or fortunately, we will never know. so either life is a beach or a bitch.
good luck!


life is full of exceptions, dude, if u keep hoping and do something to keep it its possible to have a relationship even if u r on Mars;) ;)

i know many this kinda "exceptions" :lol:

[illusion]

Hell YE!!! It IS possible 100%!!! Damn all those pesimistic ideas! I'm gonna be again with my sweetheart in 1.5 months after 9 months long "distant relationship". Hurrrrray!

PS Wouldn't u believe in my personal experience ;)

Well, u r gonna see your sweetheart on 1.5 months, but there is no guarantee that u,guys, are gonna stay together...(But if u do, that’s even better, meaning that no matter what, you, guys, could stay faithful and overcome all the obstacles of long distance relationships)….

I’ve said so, coz after your exchange year in the US, your character(maybe even personality) has changed in many ways, I mean your world outlook, tastes and even interests are much different than they used to be when u were back at home

[Oslo]

yes it is possible to have a long distance relationship but if the two people really enjoy the relationship and want it to develop in the future, then they will work to create it into a non-long-distance relationship.

[JoJ]

it's impossible. someone gets hurt. evidence is more than abundant that ld-relationships don't work. people "move on" even when they are at the same place and time... the more so when the relationship is ld. i have plenty of friends who had to "move on"... unfortunately or fortunately, we will never know. so either life is a beach or a bitch.
good luck!

life isnot fair, everyone knows that:twisted: , but why u guyz are all pessimists,cheer up;) unfair life is still going on, lets make it better(not philips), in my opinion long distance sometimes just strengthens relationship.
malasians say, "far from eyes - close to the heart";)

[Dadasi]

It's impossible. I hated it and she hated it too.

Hated to see her leave, loved to watch her go. :)

[Makavelli]

Na-uhh.Never Works!

[shady_lady]

shady_lady:

My advice - move on, and save this drama for something worthy.
If you meet him again - fine; if you don't - even better.
By sitting, and second guessing yourself, you only make matters worse.

TR
Deaar, It was research which I ve done for my paper on Long distance relationships: however, thanks for worring.:)

[shady_lady]

Actually I decided to renaissence this topic, so is there someone, who won't mind to answer it.:D

[Vostochnaya...]

Actually I decided to renaissence this topic, so is there someone, who won't mind to answer it.:D

усегда пжалста! :D
ppl, currently, I'm experiencing long-distance relationship...
now I understand, that a year ago I wrote total bullshit in this thread! :lol:
I met my love in the internet (through forum, not this...;) ). he is from another city, which is actually not so far from Almaty. he came to Almaty, we really fell in love with each other. frankly saying, he is my first true love...
now, he is studying in US, and I didn't see him for about half a year. it is hard, but NOT IMPOSSIBLE!!! we communicate as often, as possible, e-mails, sms, messengers. and he calls at least once in two days.
of course, sometimes, (nu ladno vru, ne sometimes a ochen' dazhe chasto) I feel jealous, but, that's ok. he will be back in 25 dayz...waiting for him impatiently... paradox, but my love grows from day to day.

[Angeleyes]

it worked for me, we were in love for 1 year. He was in US and me in Uzb. now we are married and waiting for a baby.

[Pinkie]

Long distance relationships can be successful if the couple can trust each other and they are serious. Distance sucks...if you can overcome that then great. Just realize that your intentions may not be the same as the other person. And I'm not being a pessimist :P

Congratulations to samarkandnara :D

[Vostochnaya...]

it worked for me, we were in love for 1 year. He was in US and me in Uzb. now we are married and waiting for a baby.
wooooowwww! congrats!!! :D
hope, your experience will be an excellent example for me and other ppl. dolgix vam let schas'ya!

[Martingale]

wooooowwww! congrats!!! :D
hope, your experience will be an excellent example for me and other ppl. dolgix vam let schas'ya!

Vostochnaya,
Welcome back!:)

[Vostochnaya...]

Vostochnaya,
Welcome back!:)
ты думай, кого приветствуешь!!! одного из самых завзятых флудеров и претендента на вечный бан! :lol:
/в этом месте идут долгие расшаркивания, закатывания глаз, и глубокие приседания в духе восемнадцатого века/ =)

сорри, мильон раз сорри за офф...

[infolife]

It doesn't work quite well. Distance makes difference in most cases. Ko'zdan yiroq-dildan yiroq:? You feel sad, wanna tell it to some1 but he's not there u can't email how exactly u feel, u just say u'r ok. U can't write to some1 in details, how u've been living since he's gone.
And one can only feel it(YOU and your love) when he can actually see you. Or you shoulda spent enough long time before you apart.

[NBM]

Long distance relationships DO NOT work. It doesn't matter who is going to be unfaithful. It can be a man or a woman. The point is, we are all human beings, and if your other half is on the other side of the ocean, it will not work. No matter how many times a day you call them (ok, it will work the first month), but the physical presence of the person you love is what matters the most.

[Vostochnaya...]

guys! you are totally depressive!!! :(
I really cannot read ur posts, which destroy my believe in true luv...

[shady_lady]

Hey Vostochnaya, don't worry LDRs do work !!!
P.S. I cited you in my research paper ))))

[infolife]

he-he, beleive or not it doesn't work!! Too many factors are involved.
Distance makes difference:( it did in me
guys! you are totally depressive!!! :(
I really cannot read ur posts, which destroy my believe in true luv...

[NBM]

guys! you are totally depressive!!! :(
I really cannot read ur posts, which destroy my believe in true luv...


This is not to depress you. This is more of a reality. Besides, True Love....What is it? Does it really exist?
Human beings are animals. We go for some first, becuase of the physical attraction, later we start getting to know the person better, and then we start liking them for who they are "inside". Then, it just becomes a comfort, a fear to let go of another person, and we stick to that person. Whether we are happy with them or not, it doesn't matter anymore, just because you are used to him/her at this point, and you are scared to test other waters (for whatever reasons). This is where the long-distance relationship comes in. It makes you realize, when the other person away, that there are other opportunities, and that there are other people, who are more awesome. Also, people just grow apart. You don't have anything to talk about anymore. So, LDR is a test, which people usually fail.

[Angeleyes]

This is not to depress you. This is more of a reality. Besides, True Love....What is it? Does it really exist?
Human beings are animals. We go for some first, becuase of the physical attraction, later we start getting to know the person better, and then we start liking them for who they are "inside". Then, it just becomes a comfort, a fear to let go of another person, and we stick to that person. Whether we are happy with them or not, it doesn't matter anymore, just because you are used to him/her at this point, and you are scared to test other waters (for whatever reasons). This is where the long-distance relationship comes in. It makes you realize, when the other person away, that there are other opportunities, and that there are other people, who are more awesome. Also, people just grow apart. You don't have anything to talk about anymore. So, LDR is a test, which people usually fail.

iF LDR didn't work for you it doesn't mean that it will not work for anybody. Mojet u tebya ne poluchilos', poetomu ty vseh po sebe sudish.
Znayu odnu moloduyu semyu, kotorye jdali drug druga 7 let ( jena s Indii, a muj American). Jenaty uje 6 let, est' dochka -2 goda. Very happy family.
Pro sebya mogu skazat', chto ya i moy muj lyubili drug druga na rasstoyanii bol'she goda, hotya videli drug druga 1 raz. Kogda on priehal vo 2 raz, togda my pojenilis'.:)
Soglasna s tem, chto LDR is a test.If it's true love it will work.

[NBM]

iF LDR didn't work for you it doesn't mean that it will not work for anybody. Mojet u tebya ne poluchilos', poetomu ty vseh po sebe sudish.
Znayu odnu moloduyu semyu, kotorye jdali drug druga 7 let ( jena s Indii, a muj American). Jenaty uje 6 let, est' dochka -2 goda. Very happy family.
Pro sebya mogu skazat', chto ya i moy muj lyubili drug druga na rasstoyanii bol'she goda, hotya videli drug druga 1 raz. Kogda on priehal vo 2 raz, togda my pojenilis'.:)
Soglasna s tem, chto LDR is a test.If it's true love it will work.


A ya i ne govorila chto u menya ne poluchilos' :) I ya po sebe ne suju. Prosto, dayu zdorovyi vzglyad na jizn' :)

[FREEMAN]

what u think. who has a tendency to fall in love at internet? woman or man? mostly women r writing in this thread. i guess women r mostly effected.. dont belive in this type of relaiton ship. cuz women always want to present them better than they r. it is the problem.

[Maroon]

This is not to depress you. This is more of a reality. Besides, True Love....What is it? Does it really exist?
Human beings are animals. We go for some first, becuase of the physical attraction, later we start getting to know the person better, and then we start liking them for who they are "inside".Then, it just becomes a comfort, a fear to let go of another person, and we stick to that person. Whether we are happy with them or not, it doesn't matter anymore, just because you are used to him/her at this point, and you are scared to test other waters (for whatever reasons). This is where the long-distance relationship comes in. It makes you realize, when the other person away, that there are other opportunities, and that there are other people, who are more awesome. Also, people just grow apart. You don't have anything to talk about anymore. So, LDR is a test, which people usually fail.

Honey, there is always an exception to everything. ;)

Ciao.

[NBM]

Honey, there is always an exception to everything. ;)

Ciao.

That is why I sad that's why they USUALLY fail, NOT Always.
Guys, you really need to read between the lines :)

Arividerci

[dili@]

Long ditance relationship does work. For example me. I have a boyfriend in toshkent. I have been with him about 3 years now. (it well be)! I always call him or e-mail to him. I always go to tosh. every summer just to visit him. i live in D.C. it does work when you want to. and he never cheated on me and i didn't either. i hope it lasts long...
~Dili@4life~

[chicagoan]

what u think. who has a tendency to fall in love at internet? woman or man? mostly women r writing in this thread. i guess women r mostly effected.. dont belive in this type of relaiton ship. cuz women always want to present them better than they r. it is the problem.


ye, ye, I heard from someone about an elderly lady who had 3 young boyfriends in 3 different countries: Indonesia, Australia, and some place else.

She was at her late 50's, and those men - presumably around 20's. She also presented herself as a teenager, and put up a young model's pix.

Who knows, maybe those guys were inreality retired folks that had nothing to do.

LDR's success depends on many factors, but I will tell you that it is best to see the person eye to eye, until you make a commitment....

I have loved my girlfriend living in the same town, and while on the other end of the world, and now we are happily married and parents of two sweeties....

mr

[dili@]

ohhh..
thats so cute!
Now thats a happy ending..
~dili@4life~

[elenaby]

:oops: I was in long distance relationship twice - did not last longer then 6 month. (FYI the distance between us was only 2.5 hours. ) He was lazy to drive and i spend 5 hours in rash hours driving jsut to see him, spend a night and drive for 2.5 hours back to work at 5 am. I quit in a while - you put so much of your soul into something that wont work,

[melo]

It's possible with the right person. I had to wait a long time, then had a long distance relationship, but now we are happily married.

[uzbek living in]

HI,

Long distance relationships simply can not work. In a relationship people usually connect emotionally and psychally. No matter what anyone says, they both are important. A relationship based on internet or phone is based on lie. If you can not see how they express their feeling via action how can you trully know who you are with. I mean on the phone and online people can say different things and act differently. Furthermore, not being able to go do simple things like dinner and movies, hold hands, kiss and even sex (depending what kind of relationship) does a lot of damage. I just thing it is important to see your man or woman periodically to have a healthy relationship.

[chicagoan]

HI,

Long distance relationships simply can not work. In a relationship people usually connect emotionally and psychally. No matter what anyone says, they both are important. A relationship based on internet or phone is based on lie. If you can not see how they express their feeling via action how can you trully know who you are with. I mean on the phone and online people can say different things and act differently. Furthermore, not being able to go do simple things like dinner and movies, hold hands, kiss and even sex (depending what kind of relationship) does a lot of damage. I just thing it is important to see your man or woman periodically to have a healthy relationship.


Hey oshna, hayvonmisan, LDR deb yurib ishini ham qilib yuraversang?

Chetta jaaaaaa rivojlanib ketilibdi-da?

Qanaqa sex before marriage for an uzbek?

yo sening gunohlaring uchun ham bittasi o'lganmi?

:))

mr

[Amiri Turkiston]

but by online talking you can understand the feelings by going to deep-inside of a person's mind

[melo]

I would also add that you can get to know someone so much better because long distance relationships involve so much more talking. You discuss everything and learn so much about each other.

[Bekzod_usa]

Yeah it is good thread well, I think it doesn't work out well...
Because now I'm far away from the person that I loved when I was in Uzb but after coming here, after 4 months I realized that she is not worthy to me... I think just because of long distance and not to see her...
Maybe when i come back it will also be good... but now I don' now...
But some people say that long distance can make relationship very good...
I think everybody has different experience!!!

[uzbek living in]

Hey oshna, hayvonmisan, LDR deb yurib ishini ham qilib yuraversang?

Chetta jaaaaaa rivojlanib ketilibdi-da?

Qanaqa sex before marriage for an uzbek?

yo sening gunohlaring uchun ham bittasi o'lganmi?

:))

mr

Honestly this was not called for. I said depending on a relationship (meaning marriage, engagement). Furthermore, sex is an important component of being together. You have to connect on a physical level. Plus, my sins are none of your concern...

[moi]

Long Distance Relationships Will not work. It does not favor which side will have the affair, it is a matter of personal. It depends on which person gets bored. I would stay away from the relationship.

[Royal]

Long Distance Relationships Will not work. It does not favor which side will have the affair, it is a matter of personal. It depends on which person gets bored. I would stay away from the relationship.
Mojno Mojno
A pochemu i net, "Long Distance Relationships" polzovalis daje do poyavleniya interneta:

"Chukcha poluchayet pismo ot jeni iz Moskvi chto u nego rodilsa SIN
Chukcha zvonit v Moskvu i sprashivayet jenu: A kak ? ya ja uje 1.5goda v Kamchatke ??
Jena: a pomnish ti otpravlyal svoy fotokartochku ??
Chukcha: Daaa? a togda mojno!!! a pogadi moe fotokartochka biloje do poyasa ???!!!"

Nu vot okajetsa pri jelanie mojno vsyo...

[jamshidazizov]

May be it is possible but I don't believe in it anymore.
Usually woman are unfaithful, got experience;)

While emailing you msg ''I love u honey, blah blah blah'', she can be dating tonight with another guy.

Moreover, you can be given a password to access her emails (you must see how ''loyal'' is she), which would be cleaned up from other guys' messages before you got passcode:lol:

[chicagoan]

May be it is possible but I don't believe in it anymore.
Usually woman are unfaithful, got experience;)

While emailing you msg ''I love u honey, blah blah blah'', she can be dating tonight with another guy.

Moreover, you can be given a password to access her emails (you must see how ''loyal'' is she), which would be cleaned up from other guys' messages before you got passcode:lol:


Afsus, that's why brother, the Prophet peace be upon him, told to pick a faithful wife (or wife-to-be) when considering to get married.

Faithful means, among many things, knowing ALLAH, and since ALLAH sees everywhere and everything, such a girl won't even think about cheating.

A person can really be faithful to a partner if he/she is faithful to ALLAH.


And distances do not matter.


But let me tell you another thing, there is a verse in the Qur'an that faithful, good women are for faithful, good men, and vica versa.

So start from yourself.


mr

[migrant]

Do you think it's possible to have a successful long distance relantionship?
Why or why not?

Who is usually unfaithful in the relantionship, man or woman?


If you can please write the answers in English. :D

"well, all i can say is you have to pray for both of you... for strenght, for trust and pray that no matter how long is the distance between you and your guy, you'd be able to overcome the TEMPTATIONS and trials that will hinder your way... it's true that in that kind of set up,1 out of 10 survive... just feel lucky if you'll be that one... just pray girl and you'll never go wrong... "

Duo juda ham muhim hamma narsada.
ayniqsa chet elda yurgan yigitlar uchun bu juda ha kerak:D