Difference Between Love & Lust...Tell me.

[Citizen Dido]

I have the opportunity to counsel people of various ages and backgrounds. Some of them are in that time of life where they are one of these three:

1. Dating
2. Courting and wanting to marry
3. Seperation or divorce

In the first most seem to surround the infatuation period where it is not true love. Of course, first I should define love in basic terms...

LOVE - it never fails, is kind, is considerate action, is compassion, is there when you are down, is there for you even when you make unwise choices and makes you feel happpy and at peace.

This list can go on as there are so many aspects of love, but those are some of the basic ones.

Back to our 1, 2, 3, point above... So, 2. is a period where you really consider marriage, often I meet people that want to marry, but they do not know if they really love each other. Most couples ask this because they have not asked other basic questions like;

- Who will take out the garbage if we were married?
- Do you want to have children?
- Why do you love me?
- If someone said something bad about me, is it likely you would believe them?
- Can you live with my weaknesses?
- Do I make you feel better about yourself when I am around?
- Do I make you feel at peace?
- Could I represent you anywhere I go or would you be in doubt?

Most of these questions are never asked, but if they are asked, you may well be suprised of the answer! Asking a lot of questions and expressing your feelings is an important part of finding out about love. If the answers are shady or unclear then you may have to start reviewing if the love expressed in a relationship is onesided or not even love.

For the third, it is really a time of evaluation and testing. The offending party will really have to show "V extra V" love to the heart broken spouse (in the case of adultery, etc). If the cause is both parties it may be helpful to express your original feelings and thoughts before your marriage/divorce.

What are your thoughts on the differences of love and lust?

How do I know if I am in love or in lust?

[Sigma]

Love mutual understanding, common sharing and intimate affair.
Lust physical pleasure is priority, selfish intention and short lived, once attained.

[StU]

"Lust" is a german word - indicates - zhelanie, ohota! I hope the meaning is now crystal clear.

[Inspiredmind]

"Lust" is a german word - indicates - zhelanie, ohota! I hope the meaning is now crystal clear.

clear clear...$_in honim, :D , no need to explanation, tem bolee posle VAS.:D

[Citizen Dido]

I agree with what you are saying guys and appreciate your point of view .Yes Lust is not Love and that is for sure,but the idea behind this thread is this... 'How do I know I am really in Love'?

[SAMARKANDI!]

I agree with what you are saying guys and appreciate your point of view .Yes Lust is not Love and that is for sure,but the idea behind this thread is this... 'How do I know I am really in Love'?

Tell me how u know that u r not in love? everyone has different perception of love.
One example about people who have never experienced physical inercourse may say things different from who had.
Second Age difference, older people put more emphasis on respect, commitment, responsibility and younger would take it as a romanic talks, feelings, signs, touches.
Third, cultural differences, too many examples for this.
But one thing would always seem to u dearer, it is lost, missed opportunity..

[Bonik]

I agree with what you are saying guys and appreciate your point of view .Yes Lust is not Love and that is for sure,but the idea behind this thread is this... 'How do I know I am really in Love'?

It's very simple believe me.

If your question is 'How do I know I am really in Love?'
This is a wrong question to determine your feelings towards a particular individual of opposite gender. You must ask yourself another question in order to determine if you really in LOVE... because when u answer to that question it will be cristal clear to you if u r in love or not.
The question should be "Am I ready to live with this person for the rest of my life?" The positive answer to this question automatically answers your first question.

You see Life is not simple. It has a lot of "if-s", many many "angles" and "looks". Depending on your approach to any question you will end up having different answers and these different answers can be true at the same time.

From your question itself one knows that you are raised in a family with "modern mentality". From your knowledge of English language one can have opinion that you are an educated person. The angle which you chose to ask this question shows that you are not ready for marriage. Therefore, even not knowing a person whom you "love" or "lust" we can make a conclusion that most definitely you are not in love. The proof is LOVE makes person more mature and that person already knows if his "loving heart" or "lusting mind" wants to have relations with that person in your mind.

I beg your pardon if I was a bit off topic or accidentally offended your feelings...

[Пушкарева]

A good point, I would say.


The question should be "Am I ready to live with this person for the rest of my life?" The positive answer to this question automatically answers your first question.

[Demir Kağan]

Time shows whether you really love or not.

[Iceman]

a man sevib qoganman.
uylanish qoldi holos. o'ziyam bo'may ketyapti, uylanmasa bo'midi.
sovchilikka borishga davogarlar bomi? tajribasi oshganlari yo'mi?

on: love is inexplicable feeling that you never want to abandon.

[daka]

Love is when you want to be with that person in a blessed marriage and have his children. Love is when you understand, care, respect and value each other. Lust goes away but love always stays . As mention by Demir Kagan time will tell the difference between the two.

a man sevib qoganman.
uylanish qoldi holos. o'ziyam bo'may ketyapti, uylanmasa bo'midi.
sovchilikka borishga davogarlar bomi? tajribasi oshganlari yo'mi?

on: love is inexplicable feeling that you never want to abandon.
Ibi, Nauchunahir, endi saniki elottdagi gap bosa, engalani bolajak kudalanikina shpionchilika yobarip alasan.:D Hali galinni ata-anasi razimi yokmi, bilmi durup biza gumma pishirip baravaramizmi,bar dasan ahir, vinnan ish chikmidi. ;) Hech erda hech gap yok,bilmin durip bisani bola ayitti dap getavarsa bomidi? Ya uje bardilami? Kattalani aldinnan bir ot san bala, galishdikmi? A tak, gumma, patir yapish bolsa chakir baramiz yardama:) URRRAA, forumda toy bolajakmi yay!:)
Nauchunahir, san dap ana off top yazip kuoyidim:uups:

[Citizen Dido]

The angle which you chose to ask this question shows that you are not ready for marriage. Therefore, even not knowing a person whom you "love" or "lust" we can make a conclusion that most definitely you are not in love. The proof is LOVE makes person more mature and that person already knows if his "loving heart" or "lusting mind" wants to have relations with that person in your mind.

I beg your pardon if I was a bit off topic or accidentally offended your feelings...


That's more comfy for me I think ,sounds nice, I liked u words 'lusting mind' .Maybe this is my true colors of my nature .I never say that I love,cause I don't believe in that crap. Ideally, if I feel that and If I fall in love it'll be forever i think,or I'll never fall.

[Iceman]

Ibi, Nauchunahir, endi saniki elottdagi gap bosa, engalani bolajak kudalanikina shpionchilika yobarip alasan. Hali galinni ata-anasi razimi yokmi, bilmi durup biza gumma pishirip baravaramizmi,bar dasan ahir, vinnan ish chikmidi. Hech erda hech gap yok,bilmin durip bisani bola ayitti dap getavarsa bomidi? Ya uje bardilami? Kattalani aldinnan bir ot san bala, galishdikmi? A tak, gumma, patir yapish bolsa chakir baramiz yardama URRRAA, forumda toy bolajakmi yay!
Nauchunahir, san dap ana off top yazip kuoyidim

sommakim daka,
qani ahir, bo akansizqu! shu forumni u trapinnan girib uylanjakman dadim bu tarapinnan girib uylanjakman dadim hech kim qoramadi:uups: , hudo shukr siz bo akansiz:P . ayttimqu man uje yohshi go'rib bo'ldim. :uups: :cool:

ahir, sovchi dayanni majburiyati qizni ota-onasini rozi atishmasmi? :rolleyes: bo'masa sovchilikni na garaki bo? lekin aya shu hech topilmasa o'zim boraman qo'yaman qu lakin.:shock:


go'mma patir yeyish joyina gaganda chaqiraman silani o'zim! :bounce: address shu horazmni bir myushinda! soppi garrik ayttirib chiqadi hali! :lol: sasi buhoradan eshitiladi u bo'lajak to'yni! ahir sevishganlar uylanjak!:heart: (signatura'a qarang ahir)



ON: love is what you never want to loose and what you always care about. lust is just the feeling related to sexual pleasure and it is temporary.:cool:

thanks

[daka]

sommakim daka,
qani ahir, bo akansizqu! shu forumni u trapinnan girib uylanjakman dadim bu tarapinnan girib uylanjakman dadim hech kim qoramadi , hudo shukr siz bo akansiz . ayttimqu man uje yohshi go'rib bo'ldim. :uups:

EEE, bola yash san ahir, ibi indi yakshi goripti dap, sovchilika getavaramizmi ahir, kiz na deidi? Biza barip dursak, a kiz dishannan kim mani ara chikadi dadi dap dursa nishatamiz biza?

ahir, sovchi dayanni majburiyati qizni ota-onasini rozi atishmasmi? bo'masa sovchilikni na garaki bo? lekin aya shu hech topilmasa o'zim boraman qo'yaman qu lakin.:shock:
koy, nedagi gapni aytting sanam! hech era barma san, ozlarimiz galishtiramiz! bizzaku ata-anasini raziliki alishimiz mumkin, birok kiz "sovremennii" bolsa, nauchinahir ibi man hali yashman, barimman dap durip asa na, nishatamiz biza? :shock:

go'mma patir yeyish joyina gaganda chaqiraman silani o'zim! :bounce: address shu horazmni bir myushinda! soppi garrik[/B][/I] ayttirib chiqadi hali! :lol: sasi buhoradan eshitiladi u bo'lajak to'yni! ahir sevishganlar uylanjak!:heart: (signatura'a qarang ahir)
Boldi indi, aytkanning birak, soppi garrikni kutamiz unda! tohta, horazmi kaysi myushinda ozi, man vallikimni remontlap koyin vunda, hizmatta yarap kalar:) Signaturinga besh bahang!:)
Ishkilip yana off-top boldi bu:uups: kechirasizlar jorallar, nishatsangam ellotli ukamizni toyii, shundi vahtlada off top bomasa kachon bolsin;) , dogrimi Nauchinahir?

[stanford]

I never say that I love,cause I don't believe in that crap.

I am confused, you don't believe in that crap but you beleive in crap's miracles. What is that?

LOVE - it never fails, is kind, is considerate action, is compassion, is there when you are down, is there for you even when you make unwise choices and makes you feel happpy and at peace.

[Sindirishvoy]

A love to partner (man/woman) without lust is not love, It is ordinary friendship ;). Lust without love is a "bugi-bugi" (i love to say it to my partner) in other words just play/physical satisfaction :). You get what you want she gets what she wants.

Love according to my perception is something that residents in women's mind. I guess the reason for that man has to do something to make love (get laid) to her. That thing can be virtually anything because every girl is different and different things turn her on. It can be intellect, outlook, charm, attitude etc. If a woman fascinated by a man then she will gradually develop feeling that she loves that man. So golden rule is try to amaze her in any way you can.

"Mathematically" love can be defined as a function of lust with time argument:

Love=Lust(T), while keeping external factors equal to 0. External factors are lovers outside.

It depends on you how you optimize this simple function :) to have lasting love.

[Пушкарева]

qaysi til bu? :rolleyes:


Ibi, Nauchunahir, endi saniki elottdagi gap bosa, engalani bolajak kudalanikina shpionchilika yobarip alasan.:D Hali galinni ata-anasi razimi yokmi, bilmi durup biza gumma pishirip baravaramizmi,bar dasan ahir, vinnan ish chikmidi. ;) Hech erda hech gap yok,bilmin durip bisani bola ayitti dap getavarsa bomidi? Ya uje bardilami? Kattalani aldinnan bir ot san bala, galishdikmi? A tak, gumma, patir yapish bolsa chakir baramiz yardama:) URRRAA, forumda toy bolajakmi yay!:)
Nauchunahir, san dap ana off top yazip kuoyidim:uups:

[Legend]

qaysi til bu? :rolleyes:

Manimcha bu ozbek tilinig, Horazmcha shevasi , adashmayotgan bosam agar :) ;)

[daka]

qaysi til bu? :rolleyes:

NeZaBudka, Sammakim, Nichiksiz? Bu dasangiz Horazimcha sheva boladi.
Legend togri tapti birak, eshitgandir bir erda:) Endi off top uchun gechirasizlar joralar va chikkanlar, a tak horazmcha shevaga jalli reklama boldi-bu, sani toying Nauchinahir;) Nerlarda yoripsan ozi, kudachilikka gettip kalgan boma yana:shock:

[UzLand]

Difference Between Love & Lust

Lust кетади

Love колади

[Dabestrider]

Lust --> selfish
Love --> is not

[Maftuna]

I think, it's all about perception. The person you love may not always be the one you want to marry, just because he/she is not a "marriage material" :) But your love for him/her may be like a fire, even endless. If you linked your love to lust, it may go cold too.
Or you may marry someone because you are highly compatible in marriage, you'd stay together, respect each other, and create a lovely family free of fights. Your love for that person may not be too strong as the first one above. But you'd still have lust.
So, I think, love for the opposite sex is created in our minds. Once you have a control over your mind, then you'll be able to sort out your feelings as well.
My humble opinion.

Maftuna.

[Tihon Alekseich]

I have the opportunity to counsel people of various ages and backgrounds. Some of them are in that time of life where they are one of these three:

1. Dating
2. Courting and wanting to marry
3. Seperation or divorce

What are your thoughts on the differences of love and lust?

How do I know if I am in love or in lust?

Ой нехорошую игру ты придумал сынок.

Ты даешь советы (counsel) людям а сам нехерушеньки не знаешь? Я правильно понял твои слова?

Если да то сказано в книге о таких как ты:
Блажен тот, кто не вмешиваеться в чужую жизь. А коль вмешивается советом да к тому же от фонаря, то будет ему фонарь в гениталии да такого размера что придет ему в голову все теории Эйнштейна в миг.

[Citizen Dido]

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