uyalganim haqida....(qizlar faqat)

[dorahon]

Assalomu alaykum aziz opalar, dugonalar! kecha man bilan yuz bergan voqeani gapirib bermoqchi edim. bizani domimizga yangi qushnilar kuchib kelishibdi, iroqlilar ekan, ayoli,qizi hijobga kirgan. Va man kuchada qizim bilan aylanvotganimizda tuqnashib qoldim, iroqli, arab dustlarim kop bulgani uchun ularni kurib quvonib ketdim.Rosa yaxshi insonlar ekan, gaplashik.Birinchi marta hijobli inson bilan gaplashvotganimda uyaldim... uz kiyimimdan( chunki man bermudi-futbolkada edim), negadir uzimni g'alati his qildim, bulmasa u ayol manga bir og'iz hech narsa degani yoq. arab dugonalar kop gaplashaman, hech qachon kiyimimdan uyalmasdim;
Aytganday, hijoblilarni kursam quvonaman-ku, kirish niyatim bulganda onamlar " hali yoshsan nima qilasan uzingni hozirdan urab, hali ulgurasan degandilar"... Hijoblilarni kursam, man bugungi kunimni uylab ertangi kunimni ohiratimni uylamyotganimdan qurqib ketaman...

Shunga qizlar sizga savolim hijobga kirmaganlar: sizlarda ham shunaqa holatlar yuz beradimi??
hijoblilarga: nechi yoshda hijobga kirgansiz? oilangiz qarshi bulganman? uzizni qanday his qilasiz? ( hayolimga hijoblilarning yuzidan nur yog'iladigandek tuyuladi.)

[Qizaloq]

Assalamu alaykum wr wb!

Woman who wears thin garment( transparent, see-through garment) or
who arouse passion in men, or meet men they are not allowed to mix or
move about openly while heavily made up or who live without pardah,
will never enter Jannat. In fact they will not even smell the fragrance of Jannat.

Albatta hijobga kirgan qizning yuzdan NUR taraladi agar u haqiqatdan o`zi hohlab iymon-e`tiqod bilan kirgan bo`lsa .Mani ham sizni qiynaydigan muammo qiynaydi, 5 sinfligimda tahminan 11-12 yoshligimda namoz o`qishni boshlaganimda hijob kirish istagi shunchalar uyg`onganki , ota-onam hali ulgurasan deb huddi shunday deyishgan,shu-shu boshqa katta bo`lganimcha ulardam so`ramadim, chunki ular juda qai`yatli va bir so`zli insonlar. hozir ham shuning g`ami bilan yashayman.Ko`cha-ko`yda hijoblilarni ko`rsam havasim keladi, shimlarda yurga bo`lsam o`zimni panaroqqa olgim keladi.

O`zbekiston hududida hijobsizlar va hijoblilar aralash yuradilar, ammo hech qanday noroziliklar shu paytgacha bo`lmagan, hamma o`z hohishicha kun ko`radi, ammo o`zbek qizlari boshqa horij davlatlariga chiqib qolsalar bu yaqqol ko`zga tashlanadi.Masalan China da ko`pgina o`zbek qizlari tahsil olishardi, studentlarning orasida arablar ham bor edi, o`zbek qizlari iymon-e`tiqodli edi, ammo shim shunga oxshash kiyimlarni wear qilishardi.
Shunda arablar ko`p bora “Musulmonmisizlar?” degan savolga ular “ Alhamdulillah We are Moslems “ deb javob qaytarishardi, ammo ular yana savol bilan : Unda nega o`zingizni nomahramlardan berkitib parda ortida (hijab) yurmaysizlar, musulmon qizni bunday yurishi haram deyishardi.

Mana shunday har kungi suhbatlardan keyin ular ham hijobga kirishdi. Hayotlari go`zal…
Samalyot O`zbekistonga qo`ngach parentslar hayron bo`lishdi, ahir ular ham qizlariga “Hijobga kirishga ulgurasan” deyishgandi, ayrimlar “ Shuning uchun ketgan ekansilade” deb tanqid qilishdi. Har hil gap so`zlar , ko`nikmay qayoqqa ham borishardi, o`rganishdi vaqt o`tib o`rnak olishdi….

Sizni vaziyatizni juda yahshi tushundim, holbuki to`planib turgan odamlar orasida hijobli ayollar va siz turibsiz, kimdur tepaga chiqib olib MUSULMON lar bormi deganda , haligi hijobdagi ayollar bir qadam nariga o`tishsa, siz ham o`taman deganingizda “ ULarni o`qdek qarashlari”, kiyimingiz tufayli musulmon ekanligingizga shubha qilishlari juda ALAM qiladi.
Ammo HIJOB islomda bor narsa, avratni berkitib, nomahramlardan o`zimizni pana qilishimiz darkor.

Qiz bola turmushga chiqqach, parentslaridan ko`ra Turmush o`rtog`iga(eri) itoatliroq bo`lishi kerak. Payg`ambarimiz Muhammad (s.a.v) ning bir sahobalari ayollarini uyda qoldirib
“Men kelgunimcha uydan tashqariga chiqmang” deb, safarga ketibdilar. Eri safarga ketgach , ayolga yomon habar kelibdi, ayolning ONAsi vafot etgan ekan janozaga chaqirgani odam kelgan ekan, ammo ayol bormabdi, erim kelsin debdi. Bu judolikka chidolmay qizning OTAsi ham bu dunyoni tark etibdi, ayolga yana habar kelibdi, ayol yana o`z OTAsi bilan vidolashgani bormabdi.
Eri safardan kelgach , ayol habarlarni etkazib, o`z turmush o`rtog`i bilan janozaga borib duo o`qibdi. Bu voqealardan habar topgan Payg`ambarimiz:
“ Eriga itoat etgan , bu ayolga Jannatning eshiklaridan biri ochildi, shubhasiz u ayol Jannatiydir” debdilar.
Sizni o`rnigizda bo`lganimda men Turmush o`rtog`imdan so`rab ko`rardim, qarshilik qilmasalar, niyatimni amalga oshirardim.
Gap qolgan hijobli ayollar orasida uyalganimiz uchun emas, o`zimiz hohlaganimiz uchun iymon bilan hijobga kirish haqida ketayapti, buni to`g`ri tushiniglar!
Peshonamizga hamma narsaning o`z vaqti soati yozilgan, namozni bilamaydigan odamga namozni o`rgatib , o`qi desangiz u o`qiy olmasligi mumkin, chunki avvalo Ollohdan hidoyat bo`lmasa, bandasiniki hech narsa bo`ladi. Inshallah mana shunday Hidoyatga Ollohning o`zi yetaklasin, AMEEN!

May Allah give every Muslim men & women HIDAYA to stand by Islamic Rules and keep far away the sin. AMEEN!

[Qizaloq]

Assalamu alaykum wr wb!

Dorahon I wish it were useful for you :

I want to talk to you about my life before and after Hijab. Im a Muslim girl 20 years old from Arabian Gulf “ The original place of Islam”. I used to believe that hijab is not an important issue. And it`s lucking my freedom. So I decided that I would never were Hijab as long as I live. Although my mother wears Hijab but she never convinces my sisters or me to wear it. She bought that you have to believe in it to do it or else you will take it off as soon as we are far away from her. And I think that it might be right in some way.
Or it might make hijab more difficult for us when we get older. It is so hard to get used to something for your whole life and change it at once. It will take you along time to change your mind. Any way , I used to love to show up specially that im not bad looking at all.And that was the most difficult part. I used to love to dress up and buy expensive clothes and I loved it when every one was looking and pointing at me .. I used to love it when some says “wow! She`s beautiful”
After I finished my High school I decided to go to have my degree in the United states. I saw a thing in there that I have not ever seen before, Its Muslim society and community. It`s amazing society with perfect Muslims. They are practicing Islam in a different way that we got used to it. Muslims in Gulf aria have been born Muslims.Arabs didn`t have to ask any questions because every thing is obvious .We didn`t have to think about faith and how to belive in God, because we were raised and every one around us is Muslim. We didn`t know what`s the real Islam and how does it feel to live between all different religious and mix society. And I just realized that people in Gulf didn`t practice pure religion , but they had a mixture between Islam and culture. So many thing that I thought it was an Islamic terms turned out to be a culture believe. And they are absolutely wrong aspects . I learned that the pure Islam is not the one that we were raised on which is full of nonsense stuff that we had in our culture since a long time ago . The real Islam is only in Quran and Sunah.When people in the states find out that I am Muslim , they always ask so many questions about Islam and most the time I can`t find an answer to their questions. So I started to go searching and looking in Islamic books and in Internet about Islam “the real thing”. I was like someone has not heard any thing about Islam before. I learned so many things that I have not knew…I started to go to the mosque and sit with so many brothers and sisters talking and discussing Islam matters. I swear that I have never gone to any mosque in my country or even think about it . Although we had thousands of Mosquesback home. All the sisters in the mosque were wearing hijab except me.And they were all Amercans except me. And they wear all broad about it and I respected them so much for that. I started to think about it all the time.
And I started to have so many dreams about me wearing the hijab. I started to have some strange feeling towered my self. I hated it when someone was looking at me. I felt that I was only a picture without a heart or a brain. Ifinally decided to go for it and wear tha Hijab. It was the best choice I have ever had. For the first time in my life : I felt that im a strong person . Because I will go for what I believe in , and I didn`t care of what people think of it or how they will look at me.
First day of Hijab was the best. I never felt so good and broad in my whole life of myself as much as I felt in that day. My friends and relatives didn`t believe that I could do it. And ever one said that I won`t keep it for too long. And that maybe one of the things that pushed me to keep it until this day. I had to go through a fight with myself. My self which always loved this life any try to enjoy it as much as I could. Now was time to say stop,and I did it. After a while every one started to respect me so much that no one had treat me like that before. Ever one believed in me so much because they knew that I am a religious person. And what gave them that expression? It`s Hijab. I can go every where now and no one would look at me as if I was picture or a dummy.Never the less I still dress up good and put make up when I am with my sisters and that turned out to be more fun.
I believe that God demand Hijab to help us and make our life easier. It builds respect between men and women . Also, it`s a matter of keeping your body to your self or who God allowed you to show (mahram).It`s also sign that show that you are Muslim, like in all religious. For example , Jewish wears a small cup on top of their heads and Christians wear a cross. And non of those two feels ashamed to show it to public. No man would think badly about a woman who is wearing a hijab so that will provide her to fall in mistakes(khateah-hatolar) or something that is ( haram-harom).A person who can wear Hijab is strong enough to do anything else and to go through any problems that she may face in all life matter. Every one around you will trust you in every thing because you trust your self. Don`t you think your body is so important? And don`t you think your body is that valuable? You don`t need some one tell you that you`re beautiful because you know that. And you don`t need someone to look at you as if you were a beautiful drawing or a picture because you`re a human been.

Assalamu alaykum warahmatallah wabarakatuh.
May God bless you,jazakum Allah khayran.

[Glance]

Assalomu alaykum aziz opalar, dugonalar! kecha man bilan yuz bergan voqeani gapirib bermoqchi edim. bizani domimizga yangi qushnilar kuchib kelishibdi, iroqlilar ekan, ayoli,qizi hijobga kirgan. Va man kuchada qizim bilan aylanvotganimizda tuqnashib qoldim, iroqli, arab dustlarim kop bulgani uchun ularni kurib quvonib ketdim.Rosa yaxshi insonlar ekan, gaplashik.Birinchi marta hijobli inson bilan gaplashvotganimda uyaldim... uz kiyimimdan( chunki man bermudi-futbolkada edim), negadir uzimni g'alati his qildim, bulmasa u ayol manga bir og'iz hech narsa degani yoq. arab dugonalar kop gaplashaman, hech qachon kiyimimdan uyalmasdim;
Aytganday, hijoblilarni kursam quvonaman-ku, kirish niyatim bulganda onamlar " hali yoshsan nima qilasan uzingni hozirdan urab, hali ulgurasan degandilar"... Hijoblilarni kursam, man bugungi kunimni uylab ertangi kunimni ohiratimni uylamyotganimdan qurqib ketaman...

Shunga qizlar sizga savolim hijobga kirmaganlar: sizlarda ham shunaqa holatlar yuz beradimi??
hijoblilarga: nechi yoshda hijobga kirgansiz? oilangiz qarshi bulganman? uzizni qanday his qilasiz? ( hayolimga hijoblilarning yuzidan nur yog'iladigandek tuyuladi.)

Dorahon,

:)

Oldinam et-betta etgandim, oldin hijobliklarni ko'rsam.. "Nima zaril ekan, isib ketmidimi?.. qiziq romolsiz qanaqa bo'larkin" der edim..

Oradan waqt o'tti, insonni fikri ham o'zgarar ekan, keyin manimcha Sizni stadiyezga yetib keldim, havas qilardim, uylardim o'zimni yurishimga, lekin o'zimda courage topolmasdim. Ota-onam UMUMAN qarshi edi.. O'zimam ana turmushga chiqsam albatta kiraman..shu kabi bo'lar-bo'mas sabablar bilan o'zimni ovutardim, yo'q to'g'rirog'i aldardim.. Heh, yana bilvogan gapim bor edi "Shu narsani niyat qilganimni o'ziaym kotta narsa" dip..:rolleyes:..

Ota-onam, atrofimdagila..(akam, opam 3-4 ta yaqin dugonalarimdan tashqari) hamma qarshi bo'lgan..

Lekin Dorahon Allohni buyrug'i hamma narsadan afzal ;)

Ochig'ini etsam, Sizni hijob o'rashingizdan to'sadigan sabab umuman yo'q dip hisoblayman. :)

Hamma narsani Allohga topshiring! ;) Qancha-qancha muslima opalarimiz-singinllarimizu, dugonalarimiz Alloh yo'lida ko'p qiyinchiliklarni boshlaridan kechirdilar, kechiryaptilar, shunday bo'lsa ham Allohni buyrug'ini kanda qilmaydilar.

Siz eng birinchi bo'lib Allohni buyrug'ini bajaring..:) Sizni Mehribon Rabbimiz qiyin ahvolda tashlab qo'ymaydi. :) Men bunga aminman! O'zingizda kuch topib, tavakkal qiling :D!

Alloh iymonizni bundanda mustahkam qilishini duo qilib qolaman..:)

Wassalam

PS. Hozir chiroyli (hijobsiz) qizlarni ko'rsam "qiziq hijob qanaqa turarkin, juda yarsashsa kerak" dep qo'yaman. Dorahon Sizga ham juda yarashadi ;)