Where do babies come from?

[Shahnoz]

You know, it's interesting how some parents answer that question to their children... :-)


How did/would/will you explain your curious child the origin of their existence?

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Интересно бывает узнать какие теории родители вырабатывают для объяснения своим чадам место их происхождения. :-)

Какой была/будет ваша версия истории появления ребёночка?



:-)

[Dogatc]

You know, it's interesting how some parents answer that question to their children... :-)


How did/would/will you explain your curious child the origin of their existence?

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Интересно бывает узнать какие теории родители вырабатывают для объяснения своим чадам место их происхождения. :-)

Какой была/будет ваша версия истории появления ребёночка?



:-)
vot tak Amerikanskie Roditeli otvechayut svoim Detyam :shock:
http://rutube.ru/tracks/402605.html?v=fec9ba7cac26c37df2163a61208c7439

[Shahnoz]

vot tak Amerikanskie Roditeli otvechayut svoim Detyam :shock:
http://rutube.ru/tracks/402605.html?v=fec9ba7cac26c37df2163a61208c7439

Ролики, отнесенные к категории "16+" доступны только
зарегистрированным пользователям старше 16 лет.

Они не верят что мне больше чем 16.... *хныкает*

[Dogatc]

Ролики, отнесенные к категории "16+" доступны только
зарегистрированным пользователям старше 16 лет.

Они не верят что мне больше чем 16.... *хныкает*
mdaaa :cool: jalko chto ne uvidesh :twisted: a tak prekolna

[PainKiller]

I strongly believe that parents should be honest about the way the kids are born when talking to their children. The conversations should be age appropirate, dont have to be very graphic, and should not contain details which may traumatize the kid.
Something like, Daddy and Mommy met, they both thought they were nice and fell in love. They got married and loved each other, helped, respected each other and one day we found out that you started living in mommy's tummy would work with a very young child. With kids older, you can and should talk as their friend and answer their all questions.
We found u in the ogorod is not the way to go. IMO.

[Пушкарева]

I know many parents use these two obsolete theories: 1) been found at a cabbage plot, or 2) been delived by a merciful stork. But my dad used to tell me they had purchased me at a store (such a capitalist approach, I would say). For my other sister, he always told "lo'lila tashab ketishgan" and she cried, poor little thing..

My sister, as a mother herself, made up her own "modernization" theory. If you remember, about 3-4 years ago, there was that ad in the Tashkent metrorail - a large picture of either a pretty american girl or guy who were advertising some blue and red color vitamins (round and bigger ones). Gosh, forgot the name....

So when her first kid got a consious mind and learnt to speak (at abt 2 y.o.), she asked her mom where she and her brother came from. My sister provided she had taken those pills - red one for her to have a girl and blue for a son; and that was quite an easy and well accepted answer. :)

Soon after, a young couple from Fergana Valley moved in at the same floor with us and they made us the great neighbours ever. Unfortunately, they did/could not have a child for about 3-4 years. The wife, appx 23-25 y.o., made a good friend and loving nanny to my niece and would share all her concerns, visits to genecologyst and diagnosis with that 4 y.o. girl.

My niece, so much willing the neighnour to get pregnant, kept highly recommending and even insisting on her taking those blue and red pills that her mom had taken. Then, she would come home totally frustrated and wonder "why kenae does not just take those freaking pills??!!"


You know, it's interesting how some parents answer that question to their children... :-)


How did/would/will you explain your curious child the origin of their existence?

------------------

Интересно бывает узнать какие теории родители вырабатывают для объяснения своим чадам место их происхождения. :-)

Какой была/будет ваша версия истории появления ребёночка?



:-)

[lilbit]

вовочка:
— вот я зимой родился. теперь объясните, откуда я взялся? аисты не летают, капуста не растёт…
родители:
— снеговики слепили.

[Пушкарева]

Agree.

I would say "when two people love each other so much, there is this great and warm feeling in between that brings about a magic. That magic slowly grows in mom's tummy and blah-blah". Later on, from 5-6 and one, you can proceed into basic biology.

I strongly believe that parents should be honest about the way the kids are born when talking to their children. The conversations should be age appropirate, dont have to be very graphic, and should not contain details which may traumatize the kid.
Something like, Daddy and Mommy met, they both thought they were nice and fell in love. They got married and loved each other, helped, respected each other and one day we found out that you started living in mommy's tummy would work with a very young child. With kids older, you can and should talk as their friend and answer their all questions.
We found u in the ogorod is not the way to go. IMO.

[lilbit]

Agree.

I would say "when two people love each other so much, there is this great and warm feeling in between that brings about a magic. That magic slowly grows in mom's tummy and blah-blah". Later on, from 5-6 and one, you can proceed into basic biology.
and what about the case when two people are not loving each other because it's not smart from their point of view? ;)

[Пушкарева]

Togda detey lepyat snegoviki ;)


and what about the case when two people are not loving each other because it's not smart from their point of view? ;)

[lilbit]

вовочка спрашивает у отца:
- пап, а бывает, что презервативы рвутся?
- посмотри в зеркало!..

[Hibiscus]

I know many parents use these two obsolete theories: 1) been found at a cabbage plot, or 2) been delived by a merciful stork. But my dad used to tell me they had purchased me at a store (such a capitalist approach, I would say). For my other sister, he always told "lo\'lila tashab ketishgan" and she cried, poor little thing..

My sister, as a mother herself, made up her own "modernization" theory. If you remember, about 3-4 years ago, there was that ad in the Tashkent metrorail - a large picture of either a pretty american girl or guy who were advertising some blue and red color vitamins (round and bigger ones). Gosh, forgot the name....

So when her first kid got a consious mind and learnt to speak (at abt 2 y.o.), she asked her mom where she and her brother came from. My sister provided she had taken those pills - red one for her to have a girl and blue for a son; and that was quite an easy and well accepted answer. http://forum.arbuz.com/

Soon after, a young couple from Fergana Valley moved in at the same floor with us and they made us the great neighbours ever. Unfortunately, they did/could not have a child for about 3-4 years. The wife, appx 23-25 y.o., made a good friend and loving nanny to my niece and would share all her concerns, visits to genecologyst and diagnosis with that 4 y.o. girl.

My niece, so much willing the neignour to get pregnant, kept highly recommending and even insisting on her taking those blue and red pills that her mom had taken. Then, she would come home totally frustrated and wonder "why kenae does not just take those freaking pills??!!"

So funny, but my parents used to tell us the same story about purchasing us in the store, sometimes they would scare us by saying that they will take us back to that store. :lol: I personally never was interested about where I came from, for some reason I was smart enough to understand that all their stories were all lies. I would not buy some cabbage stories..But i never went into details though..for me it was always enough to know, that I am their kid, no matter how I came to this world. The same was with Santa Clause thing, i never believed in that, however, somewhere in the back of my brains, i would still think that HE MIGHT EXIST :lol:

[Hibiscus]

Совершенно согласна с Painkiller и Nezabudkoy.

Если родители не смогут нормально рассказать ребёнку, каким образом он появился на свет, то расскажут другие (Худо билади, как расскажут).

Мои родители со мной на "такие" теми никогда не разговаривали - советское воспитание, наверное, сказалось. Зато родители (врачи) одной из близких подруг, могли беседовать с нами открыто и не придумывая всякие небылици. У них я и прочла книгу А.Аудариня, В.Путиньш. "Откуда берутся дети".

ИМХО, уж лучше такие книги давать детям, чем говорить, что их аист принёс (как ето было в моём случае).

For some reason, i think there is nothing wrong about telling the kids some stories, what could a KID possibly understand at that age. Whether you read him a book about that, or tell him the truth, kid won\'t understand it anyways. When a kid is just 5 years old, how you want to explain that? or even 8 or 10? \"Well son, you know, when two person love each other it happens, and the baby comes\"? what will he understand from that? :) Why tell him this, and make him even more curious? Just like an Americans, have this way of thinking, that you should start telling kids the truth from the very beginning, maybe that\'s why their kids grow up and become so EDUCATED in things they should not be, at so early stage of development. Just my personal Opinion.

[Пушкарева]

LOL, yep! Forgot that: they used to tell me the same thing :lol: threatening "we'll take you back (return) or exchange to another kid"


Xaxaxaxa - just recalled. I began suspecting where babies come from at the age of 11-12 maybe. Felt there was something wrong and private about the issue and only knew it right at the 13-14, I guess. A neighbour girl (few years younger than me) opened me the life truth.

Gosh, my cuiriousity and, as a result, knowledge of "where babies come from" was quite retarded.


sometimes they would scare us by saying that they will take us back to that store. :lol:

[~Atirgul~]

Mama govorila mne pravdu (tol'ko bez podrobnostey konechno), i detyam ya toje budu vsegda pravdu govorit'

[Hibiscus]

Mama govorila mne pravdu (tol\'ko bez podrobnostey konechno), i detyam ya toje budu vsegda pravdu govorit\'

OMG, everyone was so honest with their kids, i just wonder at what age they start telling you the truth?

[Пушкарева]

I disagree. You can provide very elemetary understanding through some funny story adjusted to kids' mentality.

That way they will noe hide and look through some journals, articles, and videos and have that risky "hunger" for the knowledge of things.


For some reason, i think there is nothing wrong about telling the kids some stories, what could a KID possibly understand at that age. Whether you read him a book about that, or tell him the truth, kid won\'t understand it anyways. When a kid is just 5 years old, how you want to explain that? or even 8 or 10? "Well son, you know, when two person love each other it happens, and the baby comes"? what will he understand from that? :) Why tell him this, and make him even more curious? Just like an Americans, have this way of thinking, that you should start telling kids the truth from the very beginning, maybe that\'s why their kids grow up and become so EDUCATED in things they should not be, at so early stage of development. Just my personal Opinion.

[Hibiscus]

I disagree. You can provide very elemetary understanding through some funny story adjusted to kids\' mentality.

That way they will noe hide and look through some journals, articles, and videos and have that risky "hunger" for the knowledge of things.

if you look at it this way, i would say that at certain age kids become curious anyways, and it really doesn\'t matter what stories you tell them, the true stories adjusted to kids\' mentality or funny stories about the cabbage. :) what do you consider KIDS AGE? 2-10? or 2-14? I consider KIDS AGE 2-10, after is a TEENAGER, and at that age I would probably start telling them the truth adjusted to their mentality. But before that, I am sure they won\'t be looking and digging through the books and magazines to find out the reality of LIFE :lol: they would probably digging into some \"AZBUKA\" books or \"CARTOONS\"...

[Hibiscus]

Glance хам гапларимни укиб, урушиб утирибти ман билан (Ваш пост и её слова похожи, как две капли воды).

В 5 лет может быть KID ничего и не поймёт, но в 10, считаю, в полне. Ребёнок в любом случае будет curious, не зависимо от того, расскажeте вы ему что да как, или нет. Уж лучше поделиться правильной информацией и тем самым предупредить/огородить его, чем ждать пока его более EDUCATED сверники научат его уму-разуму.

that\'s why read my next post after urs. You should consider kids between 2-10, after that they are NOT KIDS, not YET Adults.

[Glance]

Yaxshisi, bolani fikrini boshqa narsala bilan band qilib, unga: Hammamizni Alloh yaratgan, deganingiz ma'qul. Toki fikri buzilmasin. Kattaroq bo'lganda - deylik farzand ma'lum bir yoshga to'lgach, uning organizmida o'zgarishlar sodir bo'lganda - balog'atga yetganida, ota o'g'li bilan, ona esa qizi bilan baz'i narsalarni tushuntiradi. Shunda menimcha sekin-sekin tushuntirish to'g'ri bo'ladi.

Mani jiyanim etadi: oldin ruhlar olamida edim, keyin Alloh mani bu olamga tushirgan, o'lganimda yana ruhlar olamiga qaytaman, deydi. Unga shu gapning o'zi kifoya qilgan.

[Hibiscus]

This is strong Glance. Can not give you thanks yet. But I am afraid the next question will be \"Who is Allah?\"

[Glance]

This is strong Glance. Can not give you thanks yet. But I am afraid the next question will be "Who is Allah?"

That is actually the most preferable question in our family lol :D.

I will be glad to explain my kids who Allah is.

I think if you present your answers on this topic according to islam, it will bring even more questions that will rise your kids knowledge and you'll bring them up in the spirit of islam.

[The Reaper]

This thread brought up some memories... :D

I remember my mom telling me they found me inside a cabbage.
That really pissed me off, because I don't like when people try to make a fool out of me.
I told myself "Yeah, right..." and started researching on my own.

So when our distant relative came to our home, and stayed with us for a couple of months, I found all answers to all my questions, and then some. How? She was a med student studying to become a gynecologist. When nobody was around, I religiously read through all her textbooks which, to my fortune, had a lot of photos and pictures (some of them very graphic).
By the time she found out, I already knew many medical terms, and was familiar with pretty much everything in terms of women giving birth.

Oh, then I ripped out a couple of pages with pictures and photos and started showing them to other kids in the neighborhood. I guess their parents came to my mom complaining, because they hid all books from me after that.

I was 5 years old.

TR

[Qarama]

i was about 8? when our teacher told us in "biology" class how/from where babies come from and i remember that every child in my class including me looked at each other like this ":?"

[nemets]

мне родители ничего не говорили, зато моя соседка ойдын по махалле, с которой я дружил, в 5-ти летнем возрасте заставила меня раздеться и лёчь на неё, голую тоже. я спросил, "что мы делаем". она- "детей". :)

своему сыну (2,5 года) говорю, что он в животе у мамы сначала рос, а потом стало тесно и вылез. :)

[Silence]

ну мне уже пришлось столкнуться с вопросом такого рода, хотя моему чуду лишь 3 годика.
картина маслом:
сидим вместе, смотрим старый добрый советский мультик про пингвинят "лоло и пепе". там у пары взрослых пингвинов появляется яйцо, за которым они очень трогательно ухаживают. дочь моя замечает, что за яйцом долгое время ухаживает пингвин-отец (тут же проводит аналогию с бемби, где папа также взял на себя заботу о малыше, после гибели матери). мне кажется это ее удивляет, потому что своего отца она видит не чаще одного раза в месяц.
ну и следует вопрос вроде: у пингвинов мамы и папы - яйцо, откуда вышел лоло, а кама (о себе иногда все еще в третьем лице) откуда?
вы конечно можете меня осудить, но я совершенно прямолинейный родитель. так ей и сказала, что она у меня в животике была, сидела там пила, ела, росла пока в один прекрасный день животик не разрезали и она не появилась на свет, чему все очень обрадовались. учитывая тот факт, что у меня было кесарево сечение я не погрешила против истины ни на йоту :)
камка была от идеи в восторге, пошла поделилась со всеми домочадцами и смеялась в голос. думаю первое испытание мы прошли нормально.
а вот что будет когда она поинтересуется как она в животик попала...? :?
мне родители ничего в детстве не объясняли, лет в 8 я прочла соответствующий раздел в учебнике по анатомии, который был у родственницы живушей у нас и учившейся в школе или пту. никакого шока или стресса получено не было. просто захотелось стать гинекологом или хирургом :))

[Warrior]

в 5-ти летнем возрасте заставила меня раздеться и лёчь на неё, голую тоже.

nemets, tebe v germanii samoe mesto :)

[uzbekcfa2]

why is it so important?

nowadays kids are smart. they dont ask these kind of stupid questions.

back in old times, when there was no internet, tv or even radio, kids would sit and ask such kind of stupid questions from their parents.

[Magnolia]

My 8 y.o. sister knows much more then what i knew at her age :rolleyes:,she knows babies are in uterus and how babies are born (spasibo Discovery channel kotoriy u nas doma ne vyklyuchaetsya :rolleyes: ),poka ona pravda na zadavala voprosov KAK deti okazyvayutsya v maminom jivote...no blin ves' rodil'niy process znaet na otlichno :twisted:

mne kstati roditeli skazali chto menya tsigane podkinuli :lol:,tak chto ya let do 8 verila chto ya podkidysh :lol: (ya k tomu je ne byla pohoja na svoih sestru i brata :lol: )
ah da,moya ene govorila chto menya aist prines no oshibsya domom :lool:
(ya byla huligankoy za chto menya oooochen' lyubili :cool: )

[Demir Kağan]

I have never asked where did I came from cuz I've learnt it at 5. :lool: Don't ask me how! :lool: Yet, I have not thought what I can say to my kids if they ask this.

[nemets]

неметс, тебе в германии самое место :)

ага, меня - жертву разврашения в Германию значит, а сама развратительница должна спокойно жить в старом городе Ташкента. :lol:

[Maroon]

I read sex education books in my library when I was in Elementary School.

But I asked how babies are born before I went to school, I think I got the most idiotical answer in history.

[StU]

Nu v detstve mne napleli pro kapustu, no ya ne poverila. A uje v shkole u nas bila uchilka sovetskoy zakalki i vsem prinuditelno ustroila urok anatomiyi (dumayu paragraf vse naizust znayut), a na sled. urok menya kak dochku zavucha pervoy vizvala otvechat - na temu oplodotvoreniya :uups:. Nachala ya horosho, no kogda doshlo do konkretnih terminov ya pokrasnela i sela. Zakonchil moy doklad moy odnoklassnik :lol:.

[Magnolia]

I read sex education books in my library when I was in Elementary School.

But I asked how babies are born before I went to school, I think I got the most idiotical answer in history.

even worse than being podkidysh?:D

[nemets]

even worse than being podkidysh?:D

may be even worse then, like story above, being left by Lyulis :)

[Arhimed]

This thread brought up some memories... :D

I remember my mom telling me they found me inside a cabbage.
That really pissed me off, because I don't like when people try to make a fool out of me.
I told myself "Yeah, right..." and started researching on my own.

So when our distant relative came to our home, and stayed with us for a couple of months, I found all answers to all my questions, and then some. How? She was a med student studying to become a gynecologist. When nobody was around, I religiously read through all her textbooks which, to my fortune, had a lot of photos and pictures (some of them very graphic).
By the time she found out, I already knew many medical terms, and was familiar with pretty much everything in terms of women giving birth.

Oh, then I ripped out a couple of pages with pictures and photos and started showing them to other kids in the neighborhood. I guess their parents came to my mom complaining, because they hid all books from me after that.

I was 5 years old.

TR

Haloyiq, topgan mavzularingni qaranglar, gaplashadigan boshqa tema yo'qmi?

Hozirgi kasbingiz ginekolog yo seksopotolog emasmi mabodo?

[UdachnicK]

deystvitel'no..

otkuda oni berutsa??:rolleyes:

[~Atirgul~]

OMG, everyone was so honest with their kids, i just wonder at what age they start telling you the truth?
Никогда , с самого рождения я не буду врать своему ребенку инша Аллах. Ребенок не должен расти на обмане, все можно объяснить честно, только для каждого возраста есть свой подход объяснения, детям как правило объясняешь просто, элементарно, без всяких подробностей. Я еще когда ходила в садик такие вопросы задавала у мамы, помню как она говорила что 9 месяцев носила меня, а потом мне стало там тесно и я родилась. Мне лишние вещи даже в голову не приходили тогда, казалось что ребенок появляется в животике как только начинается супружеская жизнь. Потом постепенно с возрастом узнаешь подробности, только уже не от родителей. Обычно дети задают такие вопросы до школы, потому что у них очень маленький источник информации, и основной источник информации являются его родители, а как пойдут в школу, научатся читать, общаться, они уже как правило с такими вопросами к родителям не приходят.

[Пушкарева]

Xa-xa, Magloshkin. Kstati moyu sestru, chya teoriya poyavleniya v semye bila toje svyazana s ciganami, eto potomu chto ona ni kapli ne pohoja na nas dvuh. Nu absolutno drugaya vneshnost (bolee pohoja na arabok, armyan). Za eto - i teoriya u neyo bila drugaya.

Kstati v to chto menya kupili ya, konechno je, ne verila. Kak i skazala ranshe, podozrevala, chto chto-to v etom dele (deti) vsyo taki ne tak.. slojnee, chem obyasnaetsya roditelyami. No vot v to chto sestru podkinuli - verila osnovatelno i ochen dolgo. Seychas sojaleyu, no togda, esli ssorilis, vsegda yey ob etom govorila. Ona plakala...


mne kstati roditeli skazali chto menya tsigane podkinuli :lol:,tak chto ya let do 8 verila chto ya podkidysh :lol: (ya k tomu je ne byla pohoja na svoih sestru i brata :lol: )
ah da,moya ene govorila chto menya aist prines no oshibsya domom :lool:
(ya byla huligankoy za chto menya oooochen' lyubili :cool: )

[Пушкарева]

Kstati da, ya toje verila (do razgovora s toy devochkoi mladshe menya), chto detey dostayut iz utrobi materi iskluchitelno razrezom jivota, aka keserovo (kak ya potom uznala).

Otdelalas nebolshim shokom kogda uznala otkuda, teoriticheski, oni doljni na samom dele poyavllyatsya.

PS: Silence, istoriya s Lolo-Pepe - naiumilitel'neyshaya. Moy samiy lubimiy multik detstva. Toje hochu bit takoi je horoshey mamoi kak ti.

Никогда , с самого рождения я не буду врать своему ребенку инша Аллах. Ребенок не должен расти на обмане, все можно объяснить честно, только для каждого возраста есть свой подход объяснения, детям как правило объясняешь просто, элементарно, без всяких подробностей. Я еще когда ходила в садик такие вопросы задавала у мамы, помню как она говорила что 9 месяцев носила меня, а потом мне стало там тесно и я родилась. Мне лишние вещи даже в голову не приходили тогда, казалось что ребенок появляется в животике как только начинается супружеская жизнь. Потом постепенно с возрастом узнаешь подробности, только уже не от родителей. Обычно дети задают такие вопросы до школы, потому что у них очень маленький источник информации, и основной источник информации являются его родители, а как пойдут в школу, научатся читать, общаться, они уже как правило с такими вопросами к родителям не приходят.

[PainKiller]

I, personally never asked my parents how I wasborn. They were both doctors, and we had some very graphic medical literature at home. So ever since I was able to read, I used to sneek into their library, steal their books and read. I was never as shocked to read about how the babies are made. The only shocking memory of mine related to those old times, was the fact that girls have hymen and it breaks during the intercourse. I cried, it read painful. I was what, 7 years old then?

[MDB]

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[Пушкарева]

Who knows, maybe if you had some basic understanding how babies are made, you would decline Katya's offer. You had no clue what it is, were kinda curious and wanted to get a baby being baby urself. Thus, you did what you did.

MPO*, though.

PS: Now I know what a certain remark my theory on baby birth to my son will have: "... but, only adults can have the miracle and if someone in kidergarten would want to have a baby with you, just say "I have to grow up first". :)
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* MPO - my personal opinion




I think parent should not say anything, and kids will figure out themselves(I meant only boys I have no idea about girls since I dont have any sister),especially nowadays...

[gentle]

why is it so important?

nowadays kids are smart. they dont ask these kind of stupid questions.

back in old times, when there was no internet, tv or even radio, kids would sit and ask such kind of stupid questions from their parents.

Exactly nowadays kids will teach you what to do and how to do.
Thanks to the internet. :D

[MDB]

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[Frida]

zhena muzhu:
-- tebe pora s Vovkoy na 'etu' temu pogovorit'.
-- hmm, ne udobno kak-to...
-- nu, nachni s zhukov, babochek.

otec:
-- Vovka, pomnish my s toboy na proshloy nedele bab snimali?
-- Aga....
-- Nu vot, tozhe samoe proishodit s zhukami i s babochkami. :)

[Hibiscus]

Никогда , с самого рождения я не буду врать своему ребенку инша Аллах. Ребенок не должен расти на обмане, все можно объяснить честно, только для каждого возраста есть свой подход объяснения, детям как правило объясняешь просто, элементарно, без всяких подробностей. Я еще когда ходила в садик такие вопросы задавала у мамы, помню как она говорила что 9 месяцев носила меня, а потом мне стало там тесно и я родилась. Мне лишние вещи даже в голову не приходили тогда, казалось что ребенок появляется в животике как только начинается супружеская жизнь. Потом постепенно с возрастом узнаешь подробности, только уже не от родителей. Обычно дети задают такие вопросы до школы, потому что у них очень маленький источник информации, и основной источник информации являются его родители, а как пойдут в школу, научатся читать, общаться, они уже как правило с такими вопросами к родителям не приходят.

Why do you call it LIE? Common now. there is certain age when you can explain all that to your kid, but not when he/she is 5 or 4 or even 6. It is not a lie, you just avoid a conversation that could make a baby confused. I respect Glance reply. I will try to use the same explanation when it comes to my kids. I think this way it will make them less curious about things they are not suppose to know at that age. When they grow up (after 10) they will learn it from me, as i said above i will try to tell them everything about it adjusted to their mentality. Schools during my time were different than now. I never asked my teachers that kind of questions. I guess i was not so curious about it. I was more concerned about my grades and skills rather than \"where I came from\". To make them more busy and less think about this question and other stupid questions take them to some MUSIC classes, or Art classes, this way they will concentrate on something else. When I read this thread, it seems like everyone were so curious at such an early stage of development. I feel like I was the only kid that was not interested in this. Why do even thought about it at that age? You supposed to play Dolls and Toy Cars for god sake. :) I guess it depends on the environment you grow at.

[Magnolia]

Xa-xa, Magloshkin. Kstati moyu sestru, chya teoriya poyavleniya v semye bila toje svyazana s ciganami, eto potomu chto ona ni kapli ne pohoja na nas dvuh. Nu absolutno drugaya vneshnost (bolee pohoja na arabok, armyan). Za eto - i teoriya u neyo bila drugaya.

Kstati v to chto menya kupili ya, konechno je, ne verila. Kak i skazala ranshe, podozrevala, chto chto-to v etom dele (deti) vsyo taki ne tak.. slojnee, chem obyasnaetsya roditelyami. No vot v to chto sestru podkinuli - verila osnovatelno i ochen dolgo. Seychas sojaleyu, no togda, esli ssorilis, vsegda yey ob etom govorila. Ona plakala...

LOL,vot pro to chto ya podkydish mne tverdili vse :lol:
osobenno sestra starshaya (Mengli),kogda ya s ney rugalas' ona vechno menya draznila "a tebya voobshe podmenili v roddome" :lol:
dobraya u menya sestra :twisted:

[nemets]

nowdays every 5 year old baby can type in Google "Where the hell do the babies come from?" :)

[MDB]

nowdays every 5 year old baby can type in Google "Where the hell do the babies come from?" :)

Moreover, if they live in the west their boyfriend/girlfriends will teach
them...:)

[nemets]

Moreover, if they live in the west their boyfriend/girlfriends will teach
them...:)

I grew up in conservative Eski Shahar mahallya which was far away from west and as I already told above, the neighbor's daughter showed me everything in detail .:lol:

[Magnolia]

I grew up in conservative Eski Shahar mahallya which was far away from west and as I already told above, the neighbor's daughter showed me everything in detail .:lol:

I bet the next reply will be "but she learned it from the west!" :lol:

U nas v dvore toje byli deti kotorie byli "ochen' prodvinutye",regular kids...some of them from very "traditional" families :rolleyes:

[MDB]

I grew up in conservative Eski Shahar mahallya which was far away from west and as I already told above, the neighbor's daughter showed me everything in detail .:lol:

East or West,kids always test!:P

[~Atirgul~]

Why do you call it LIE? Common now. there is certain age when you can explain all that to your kid, but not when he/she is 5 or 4 or even 6. It is not a lie, you just avoid a conversation that could make a baby confused. I respect Glance reply. I will try to use the same explanation when it comes to my kids. I think this way it will make them less curious about things they are not suppose to know at that age. When they grow up (after 10) they will learn it from me, as i said above i will try to tell them everything about it adjusted to their mentality. Schools during my time were different than now. I never asked my teachers that kind of questions. I guess i was not so curious about it. I was more concerned about my grades and skills rather than "where I came from". To make them more busy and less think about this question and other stupid questions take them to some MUSIC classes, or Art classes, this way they will concentrate on something else. When I read this thread, it seems like everyone were so curious at such an early stage of development. I feel like I was the only kid that was not interested in this. Why do even thought about it at that age? You supposed to play Dolls and Toy Cars for god sake. :) I guess it depends on the environment you grow at.
Чунмадим зачем скрывать что ребенок живет в утробе 9 месяцев, а потом выходит на свет? Чтобы узнать эту правду ему надо ждать 10 лет значит? Допустим вы опять за беременеете, а 4 летний ребенок спросит вас почему такой большой живот, вы скажете ему чтобы он подождал до 10 лет потом все подробно (до половых отношениях) расскажете, может наоборот такой большой поток информации может не хорошо сказаться на психике ребенка в 10 лет.
Чем больше вы будете усложнять, все придумывать, избегать, тем больше ему это будет казаться странным, даже неприятным, когда такая внезапная правда обрушится на него как лавина, какбы после этого у него не появились в будущем проблемы с деторождением. Потом такие вопросы как "откуда я взялся?" не считаются глупыми, а наоборот говорят о том что ребенок интересуется, хочет познать мир. Я буду даже рада если у меня будет расти любопытный ребенок и будет задавать много вопросов.

[lilbit]

zhena muzhu:
-- tebe pora s Vovkoy na 'etu' temu pogovorit'.
-- hmm, ne udobno kak-to...
-- nu, nachni s zhukov, babochek.

otec:
-- Vovka, pomnish my s toboy na proshloy nedele bab snimali?
-- Aga....
-- Nu vot, tozhe samoe proishodit s zhukami i s babochkami. :)

pravil'no! zachem parit'' rebenka etimi ob'yasneniyami i stavit' ego v glupoe polojenie sredi sverstnikov. Vihod- na dele pokazat' chto i kak i vsego delov.

Stranno, no pochemu-to u menya nikogda ne voznikalo voprosa otkuda ya vzyalsya. Mojet potomu, chto doma bilo polno knijek po anatomii, gde ya videl embrionov v utrobe materi i t.p.

No tochno pomnyu kogda ya vpervie uslishal slovo "sex". Eto bilo vo vremya igri odnoi iz komand KVN gde-to v godu 1990. I ya sprashivayu u teti: "Chto takoe sex?" Ona mne otvechaet: "eto iskustvennoe oplodotvorenie". Cherez paru dney konsul'tiruyus' s papoi, kotoriy uslishav variant teti smeyalsya dolgo, no svoego varianta tak i ne dal. Do sih por ne znayu tochnogo opredeleniya, no to chto proishodit s zhukami i babochkami znakomo do boli :D))))

[Пушкарева]

lilya, ti menya pugaesh :shock:

no to chto proishodit s zhukami i babochkami znakomo do boli :D))))

[lilbit]

lilya, ti menya pugaesh :shock:
ya sam sebya pugayu poslednee vremya. No takova pravda jizni! Detei redko nahodyat v kapuste - prohodyat te romanticheskie vremena :D))))

Nezabudka, ti kak poslednyaya iz Mogikan, do sih por verish' skazki. Zaviduyu tebe :)

[Octavarium]

I feel like a retard, but to the best of my knowledge, I never even asked where kids come from; maybe I subconsciously realized that it was something my parents would not feel comfortable discussing with me, but it’s not the point – I think the bigger point of this discussion is what strategy you, as a parent, should choose when talking to your kids about what we believe to be adult issues – death, sex, money, you name it. I believe it’s a personal choice of every parent to decide how they want (or if they want at all) to convey a message about these adult concepts to their kids. I am all for telling kids the truth, though I can’t stress enough that whatever you got to say to your kid must be age-appropriate and very delicate. I don’t have kids, but I understand that it may be very challenging to explain your kid where he/she came from or what happened to his/her granddad, but I certainly prefer to be the one explaining my kid what is what instead of having their school-friends explain how a child is born or that his/her granddad is now buried underground, which I am pretty sure will take its toll on a kid’s psyche.

[corsair]

turnalar olib keladi bolalarni yoki tarvuzni so'ysangiz ichida o'tirishgan bo'lishadi...

jiyanim 4 yoshligida onasini pregnant ligini ko'rib, aya kamroq ovqat yeng, qorniz katta bo'lib ketibti. paqqilab yorilib ketsangiz nima qilamiz deb kulardi... kichkina singlisi to'g'ilganidan keyin ayamni ichidan bola chiqibti, bosqa chiqmasin, kechasibi bilan yeg'laverar ekan degan edi... :lool:

[Shahnoz]

Thanks for participation to all :-)
That's amazing...


I guess that's when the whole matter branches off into 2: religious upbringing, and non-religious.

My family has never been religious, but they did mention God when I started getting on their nerves :)

Well, I'm glad that most of you had books at home, which they actually read from that young age. But (as painful for my self-image in "intelligence department" as it is) I never tried to find the answer in the books... My mom has been a teacher (taught language and literature), and my dad was/is a scientist (physics, chem... something like that :lol:). And, I guess I've never really been the reading type of kid (used to fight boys instead...:lol:)

I have always asked those "stupid" questions, a looot of them (my mom has it all written down!!). Kindergarten left me with so many of them... all the physiological discoveries. Aahh, my children are not going there. Unless I decide to work in one :lol:

Well, they did tell me that I appeared in mom's tummy, and my parents did make a point of that it only happens to the women who reach a certain age, and find The Dad :-). That theory lasted for quite a while - till I was about 4. )) Then, my mom explained it to me in "simple" terms - kisses.

Sex... well, my mother had that talk with me before I started school. I was 6 then... I was a little informed by then (all the kids in our area were about 2-3 years older then me, so, I kind of had no choice but catch up to them). FYI - no personal experiments were made to test the theory. I was quite a smart kid... most of the time :-) I hated having boy-talks with my mom. It was soooo uncomfortable. But the knew knowledge compensated for the awkwardness...

And oh, by the way, I didn't have any traumatizing emotions or anything. I was just really embarrassed. And then I thought the presense of hymen wasn't fair to the females... but my parents made the point of that it just keeps "the honor", which is very valuable. So, they turned the whole thing around. :-)

Then, my brain made a connection to the bigger picture - that's when I asked where the first-first-first woman came from. And, not bothering to explain the process of evolution, they decided to tell me that God is accountable for all that overflowing population on Earth. :lol:

To my next question they answered that God is like a Santa Clause, a connection of incredible closeness and understandability, I should say. :-)

By the time I decide to have babies, I'll probably be able to tell them that I downloaded them from internet - a site with an accessability of 21+ ))

[PainKiller]

From my experience, I don't agree with Painkiller,Guess,and NomeOlvides,coz 5 year old Katya's parents thinking was exactly like your's(don't argue with me I still remember what we did with her...)
...
I dont think What I said had anything to do with what you and Katya did in the kindergarden. U seem to be missing the whole point of my post.
And have you talked to Katya's parents in person to assure us that their thinking was just like ours? Katya's parent's thinking might've been just like yours, btw. And what u did she probably learned from other kids. Since, I never mentioned showing your kids the ways and all the poses of making a baby:shock:

[Exclusive]

мне родители говорили что я был найден в барсуковой берлоге в чернобыле вскоре после катастрофы..



U menya srazu voznik vopros : Rodilsya v berloge, nickname Africa, a location United States? Kak obyasnit' takoy fenomen? :lol: (jk)

[Shahnoz]

мне родители говорили что я был найден в барсуковой берлоге в чернобыле вскоре после катастрофы..

...а потом они тебе признались что причиной катастрофы тоже ты был...

А когда они на тебя злились, то говорили что барсук который тебя родил был ещё и мужского рода...

жестоко :-)

[Uyyonli]

this thread is becoming a sex story crap :evil:

[Shahnoz]

this thread is becoming a sex story crap :evil:

That's one way to look at it. Another way is to admit that each and single one of us has gone through that stage of enlightenment, and will have to pass on the knowledge somehow, in a way that won't make the coming generation perverted, nor closed away. Relax :-)

[Uyyonli]

That's one way to look at it. Another way is to admit that each and single one of us has gone through that stage of enlightenment, and will have to pass on the knowledge somehow, in a way that won't make the coming generation perverted, nor closed away. Relax :-)

Yeah but ... hm are we teaching our kids about that here :lol:?
enlightenment :lool:
Being a pervert is human nature. besides as time changes the things change nowadays our kids have schools that teaches stuff like that anyway :)

[Shahnoz]

Yeah but ... hm are we teaching our kids about that here :lol:?

No, not quite - we're thinking of ways of doing that.

enlightenment :lool:
I appreciate your enthusiasm on the subject :-)

Being a pervert is human nature. besides as time changes the things change nowadays our kids have schools that teaches stuff like that anyway :)
See, there we go. We're all well-educated, so what's the complaint? Might as well leave the "story crap" in this thread. It's humanly natural after all... :-)

[Shahnoz]

зачёт:D

вообще-то, когда они злились, они ложили меня на операционный стол и молча вырезали мои здоровые органы на продажу.

правда, потом быстро раскаивались и в знак примирения покупали мне пирожки с капустой...очень вкусные кстати.

Кишки на пирожки. Распостранённый метод воспитания...

[Alesser]

I remember when I was a kid I did actually asked the exact question from my parents and whenever I've asked them, they use to say that Allah gave me as a gift... They use to say that Alloh put me in mom's stomach and doctors actually opened the stomach and took me out!

Later, I guess cuz I'm kinda whiter than regular uzbek kids, my uncle use to joke with me and tell me that I was actually some russian couple's kid and was swaped at the hospital with a real Uzbek baby:D... maan, it wasn't funny at that time!

[SAMARKANDI!]

Later, I guess cuz I'm kinda whiter than regular uzbek kids, my uncle use to joke with me and tell me that I was actually some russian couple's kid and was swaped at the hospital with a real Uzbek baby:D... maan, it wasn't funny at that time!

I would believe your uncle :D


ON: For some reason I would always think that they took me from Detskiy Mir (store) Whenever we went to that store I would look at small kids and think that they were on sale :D

I will tell my kids InshaAllah everything I know including this, slowly and surely as they are able to digest and poperly comperehend it.

[tamtam]

вовочка первый раз пошел в школу. вся семья с нетерпением ждет
его возвращения. наконец, он приходит:
- брехуны вы все! аист меня принес, в капусте меня нашли...
сказать, откуда я на свет появился?!.........вот, а завтра еще узнаю,
как я туда попал!

вовочка спрашивает мать:
- мама, это правда, что нас кормит бог?
- в общем-то, да.
- а детей приносит аист?
- конечно.
- а подарки раздает дед мороз?
- да.
- тогда скажи мне, пожалуйста, зачем мы отца держим?

дочка (любознательно) :
- мам! а куда тампоны вставляют?
мама (подавившись яблоком) :
- ну... как тебе сказать... в общем туда, откуда берутся дети.
дочка (офигев) :
- в аиста, что ли?

маленький мальчик вернувшись из детского сада спрашивает отца:
- папа, а зачем нужен презерватив?
- чтобы детей не было
- а как им пользуются?
- аисту на клюв надевают.

маленькая девочка спрашивает бабушку:
- а детей, что аист приносит?
- да, внученька.
- а кто аиста тр"@#ает?


- ...однажды аист принес тебя твоим родителям. они долго смеялись и сначала хотели взять аиста...:lol:

[Пушкарева]

Exactly same thing here! :) THey used to tell me "roddomda adasshgan". The reason was the same: being lighter than others.


Later, I guess cuz I'm kinda whiter than regular uzbek kids, my uncle use to joke with me and tell me that I was actually some russian couple's kid and was swaped at the hospital with a real Uzbek baby:D... maan, it wasn't funny at that time!

[Uyyonli]

:uups: My younger brother have green eyes and I don't...
but my skin color is white though :lol: My uncle used call me "tumaziq" :lool: because I used to get red as hell in the summer :( I miss my little brother so much...


Exactly same thing here! :) THey used to tell me "roddomda adasshgan". The reason was the same: being lighter than others.

[Hibiscus]

Sorry for the delayed reply :)


Dear Guess, I totally understood what she meant to say. However, I think we are arguing about things that are actually individual. Every parent find their own way to explain kids where they came from. My initiative statement was not about whether it is wrong to tell them the truth, it was more about HOW to tell them, at what age, and that there was nothing wrong about stories our parents told us.

About your classmate and video. Wow ... I mean poor kids. :lol:

Well, of course I do not eliminate the case that they may find some things from their friends at school whatsoever. But as I said before, i will try to do everything to make my child busy with some humanitarian classes, so they would not have time for digging in heir parents personal stuff sorry if I am too harsh...

As for me, I\\\'ve learned from this thread how and when to tell my kids where they came from. Thanks to Glance, she made it so much easier.


Dear Atirgul, I never said that you need to hide from the kid that he came from his/her mommy\\\'s belly. Well, why not to tell them that, when they reach age 5 and over, when they are a little more mature than at 2-5. Sorry, it sounds so funny when you say \"когда такая внезапная правда обрушится на него как лавина\";...What a huge dilemma..poor kid. Are you serious about this \"какбы после этого у него не появились в будущем проблемы с деторождением\" :lol:


I don\\\'t think that they will have any problems like this...Everyone I know who was raised on those \\\"LIES\\\" as you call them, HAVE NO PROBLEMS WITH THAT… Another thing, I never said that QUESTIONS like “where I came from” were silly or stupid. I think you got me wrong here. There is NO STUPID QUESTION. It is good to have a curious kid, but be careful, curiosity may grow into Promiscuity when they become teenagers. Last but not least, Kids today are different than what we were before, we never had access to information like this days. That\'s why kids grow up so fast, become so mature and smart. We should take into consideration a lot of aspects of our life...so it is really up to a parent how to raise their kids...Good luck to all parents and future parents...



P.S: i feel like I am a priest. :lol:

[~Atirgul~]

Sorry for the delayed reply :)


Dear Atirgul, I never said that you need to hide from the kid that he came from his/her mommy\\'s belly. Well, why not to tell them that, when they reach age 5 and over, when they are a little more mature than at 2-5. Sorry, it sounds so funny when you say "когда такая внезапная правда обрушится на него как лавина";...What a huge dilemma..poor kid. Are you serious about this "какбы после этого у него не появились в будущем проблемы с деторождением" :lol:

Qanchalik siz uchun fanny tuyulsa ham man hayotdan oldim, hali maktabda o'qiganimda bir dugonamga etgandim, qandoq farzand dunyoga kelishini, lekin sex haqida bir so'z ham ochmaganman, faqat bola eru hotin birga turmush quriganda bola qornida paydo boladi degandim, shunda shu qiz yig'lavorgan, ota onasi unga sani qushlar opkelishgan deb etishgan ekan, bilasizmi u manga ishonmagan:? ushanda 9-10 yoshlarda edik, to'g'risini etsam juda hayron qolgandim.

[Hibiscus]

Qanchalik siz uchun fanny tuyulsa ham man hayotdan oldim, hali maktabda o\'qiganimda bir dugonamga etgandim, qandoq farzand dunyoga kelishini, lekin sex haqida bir so\'z ham ochmaganman, faqat bola eru hotin birga turmush quriganda bola qornida paydo boladi degandim, shunda shu qiz yig\'lavorgan, ota onasi unga sani qushlar opkelishgan deb etishgan ekan, bilasizmi u manga ishonmaganhttp://forum.arbuz.com/ ushanda 9-10 yoshlarda edik, to\'g\'risini etsam juda hayron qolgandim.

wow, touching story...i am sorry for her then...she must be very sensitive girl. i think it\'s like for some kids to find out that Santa Clause does not exist. :lol: Btw, i am just curious, are you going to tell your kid that Santa Clause (Qor Bobo) does not exist? OMG i can imagine, if you tell your kid that Qor Bobo does not exist, he/she will go and tell other kids, and dreams of many kids will be ruined, and they may have - I-GO- PUNK\'D SYNDROME, carefull. :lol: i am sorry , i didn\'t want to be mean....:lol:

[Shahnoz]

wow, touching story...i am sorry for her then...she must be very sensitive girl. i think it\'s like for some kids to find out that Santa Clause does not exist. :lol: Btw, i am just curious, are you going to tell your kid that Santa Clause (Qor Bobo) does not exist? OMG i can imagine, if you tell your kid that Qor Bobo does not exist, he/she will go and tell other kids, and dreams of many kids will be ruined, and they may have - I-GO- PUNK\'D SYNDROME, carefull. :lol: i am sorry , i didn\'t want to be mean....:lol:

Hahh, you know, at some point you HAVE TO TELL them that Santa's kinda... not real. Because my parents didn't.:lol: I belived in Santa till I was... 13 I think. Isn't that harsh?!! I had a serious I'll-go-emo-syndrome :lol:

That was painfull... and I remember fighting a kid, who tried to disillusion me. Poor kid... :lol:

[Hibiscus]

Hahh, you know, at some point you HAVE TO TELL them that Santa\'s kinda... not real. Because my parents didn\'t.http://forum.arbuz.com/ I belived in Santa till I was... 13 I think. Isn\'t that harsh?!! I had a serious I\'ll-go-emo-syndrome http://forum.arbuz.com/

That was painfull... and I remember fighting a kid, who tried to disillusion me. Poor kid... http://forum.arbuz.com/

Believe me kids are so smart now days, you don\'t have to tell them that SC does not exist, they will guess eventually. :) they will write you the whole A-4 formal list of things they want for New Year, and add there \" I HOPE SANTA CLAUSE IS GENEROUS ENOUGH TO SEND ME PLAY STATION\" :lol: like a joke...:lol: you gonna have \"I AM BROKE SYNDROME\" with the time...:lol: I never believed in Qor Bobo, i kinda believed but I knew there was something wrong about free gift on NewYear night...:lol: I had \"I DON\'T BUY IT\" Syndrome...:lol:

[Shahnoz]

Believe me kids are so smart now days, you don\'t have to tell them that SC does not exist, they will guess eventually. :) they will write you the whole A-4 formal list of things they want for New Year, and add there " I HOPE SANTA CLAUSE IS GENEROUS ENOUGH TO SEND ME PLAY STATION" :lol: like a joke...:lol: you gonna have "I AM BROKE SYNDROME" with the time...:lol: I never believed in Qor Bobo, i kinda believed but I knew there was something wrong about free gift on NewYear night...:lol: I had "I DON\'T BUY IT" Syndrome...:lol:

Wow, I love how only people with severe emotional damage post in this thread :lol:

Or, I guess, after the whole "wish-list" thing, I'll be telling them that Santa's elfs rebelled against him, or that he retired... or took a holiday... or got the "I-am-broke-syndrome" :lol:

[Magnolia]

Believe me kids are so smart now days, you don\'t have to tell them that SC does not exist, they will guess eventually. :) they will write you the whole A-4 formal list of things they want for New Year, and add there " I HOPE SANTA CLAUSE IS GENEROUS ENOUGH TO SEND ME PLAY STATION" like a joke...:lol: you gonna have "I AM BROKE SYNDROME" with the time...:lol: I never believed in Qor Bobo, i kinda believed but I knew there was something wrong about free gift on NewYear night...:lol: I had "I DON\'T BUY IT" Syndrome...:lol:

I was dissillusioned about Ded Moroz at the age of 5 when I witnessed ded Moroz taking off his hat and beard and turn out to be my aunt :shock::shock::shock:
talk about therapy :lool:,now I got "gender-confused" syndrome :D

[Hibiscus]

Wow, I love how only people with severe emotional damage post in this thread http://forum.arbuz.com/

Or, I guess, after the whole "wish-list" thing, I\'ll be telling them that Santa\'s elfs rebelled against him, or that he retired... or took a holiday... or got the "I-am-broke-syndrome" http://forum.arbuz.com/

Common now, i was not emotionally damaged kid...:lol: I am very very EMOTIONAL...:devilish: ADULT...:lol: Just tell them Santa went to heaven..he looking at you now..:lol: Magnolia, i would have \"wthell syndrome\" :lol: that is so crule how could they do that to you?

[Magnolia]

Magnolia, i would have "wthell syndrome" :lol: that is so crule how could they do that to you?

I was :shocked:
well they didn't know I snuck up after ded Moroz :lol:,i was a bad kid who didn't sleep at night even in childhood :lol:

[Alesser]

Exactly same thing here! :) THey used to tell me "roddomda adasshgan". The reason was the same: being lighter than others.

yup, know the exact feeling... I even almost believed my uncle, thought i wasn't a real uzbek kid, but now I know I'm my parents son for sure:)...

who knows anything can happen in our "raddoms" in Uzbekistan cuz lack of care and responsibility!

[UdachnicK]

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